self esteem book recomendation ?

[prettywhiteguitar]

Hi, Does anyone have a recomendation for a book which deals with building up your self esteem after a bad relationship ? I'd be really grateful for any suggestions.

Just feeling really low at the moment despite everything being fine, keep finding myself checking what I am doing, wearing, saying although I know I can do what I want now

hi

I'm not sure if this book fits the bill of being after a bad relationship but i have found it very useful.

Nathaniel Branden - Six pillars of self-esteem

available on amazon

Oh yes please, that would be useful to me too PWG.
I lack confidence, not so much in my appearance or what I say, more in my ability.
I will be moving soon and will need to find a new job, obviously one that pays better than the one I have now, as I will be single, living off maintenance.
I have a degree but have worked in part-time jobs for 15 years which fit better with school holidays.
I feel my lack of a career/skills puts me at a disadvantage and I worry I won't find a suitable/well paid job, so I can look after myself.
As you say we can do what we want now but how do we do it and have the confidence in our abilities.

Thank you waspylady I will give it a look

pretty do you ever read fiction? I found several books useful to read when I had a bad breakup which were fiction rather than self help, which just didn't resonate with me... If you like fiction, then let me know!

Having said that I always gravitated towards the Louisa M Hay books which I know aren't strictly self help but they put a focus on taking better care of myself and my body and made me think about how I could affect my physical wellbeing which helped raise my self esteem - the more I valued myself and treated myself well, the more I expected others too, and the less unsure or unworthy I felt...

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Highly recommend Benjamin Fry's 'What's Wrong With You' for helping you identify why you behave in certain ways. I actually went for a consultation with him last year as I wanted help for pressure at work and feeling like a failure for wanting to quit my job - I bought the book afterwards. It's amazing what a difference it makes to identify why you do certain things or feel a certain way. It might help you to work out why you got into (and stayed in) a bad relationship in the first place.

Muddychipmunk some fiction sounds good, I had a look at a self esteem 'bible' yesterday in waterstones and it just wasn't me I think.

Emsyj - I will have a look at the Benjamin Fry book cause that really sounds interesting

I often wonder why I put up with horrid behaviour in the first place cause I'm normally so strong

Its realy affected how I feel about my personality, being judged for not being 'cool' and wanting to go out all night when I had a newborn and also when we broke up and I stopped him having overnight access cause there was weed within reach in his house. I find myself arguing and justifing myself and my actions in my head when I know that what I did was right.

Sometimes I'm ok and other times it takes over.

I often wish I had just stood up for myself when I was pregnant and I wouldn't have to feel this way.

Thank you for your suggestions