Locked out / Police help?

[Merryoncemore]

Hi,

Please help as I'm unsure what to do next and need advice from someone who knows. I discovered last Thursday a folder on our google favourites containing internet addresses for adult themed "find a friend" websites as there is only my H and I in the house over the age of 1 and he has a pre exisiting internet porn habit it's not exactly a leep. I went to my mums for a couple of days with our children ( 1yr and 6mths) but returned yesterday morning in order that he cou;d spend the day with them before returning to work.
Needless to say once the babies were in bed he turned really nasty calling me thick, an idiot, a maddie etc as evidantly the file was the work of hackers and threatening to put me out. I'm suppossed to be going away next weekend with the girls leaving the babies in his sole care and really feel we need the break from each other but what happens if he changes the locks? The house is jointly owned and the mortgage paid from our joint account that we both deposit money into monthly, would the police help me gain access?

The police won't help you gain access unless he is in and comes to the door and they talk to him.

You can gain access yourself in any way you want - break the door, break the locks - change the locks and give him a key etc.

if you are worried about his care of the children or that he may deny you seeing them you should really consult someone or perhaps post in Legal here.

I'm not worried about him caring for the babies, he is a good father and dotes on them but I am concerned that he'll think it's the perfect opportunity for revenge. He considers me to have stolen the children this weekend purely because my place of refuge happens to be 150 miles from our main home, it is however another joint property that he does have keys to and I had left him a note telling him when I'd be back and answered the phone the first time he called to confirm that we were where I said we would be, I don't know what else I could have done under the circumstances.

You haven't done anything wrong. His extreme reaction (even if you were daft enough to believe that hackers go to the trouble of creating folders on people's hard drives) is proof enough that he has done something wrong.

He can't put you out of the house it's against the law- you own it too.

He doesn't sound like a very good husband or like he cares very much for you, I would be seriously considering my position if I were you OP.

Unforunatly I've been on maternity leave for the past 20 months and have burned through nearly all of my independant savings having our family (more fool me) and whilst I would never stay for money I will require time to get organised, we have agreed to relate but you're right he couldn't give a damn about me.