Need Advice on how to help sil

[AllSparksWillBurnOut]

Hi All, am regular mner but have name changed for this one.

My bil has left his pregnant wife. It's horrible and makes me feel sick. There are are faults on both sides but, in my view, it's mostly him. In fact, I could rant for a long time on this one but won't get my blood pressure up.

But, what I'd like to know is how best to offer support to my sil. One of the things I know bil hates is that she posts how she feels (and always has) on facebook - it's really cringey and embarassing. Should I suggest to her that if she wants to try and work things out, something that would help would be to stop airing the dirty laundry in public.

Or should I just butt out completely? Up to now I've sent her a few messages letting her know I'm here if she needs me but, of course, I'm on her husbands side of the family so she might find it difficult.

All views welcome. And please don't flame me - am pregnant too and likely to cry

why would we fame you? you sound lovely

people will say you should keep out of it but in your shoes I would tell her to stop posting her cringy comments on FB - that would be enough to keep anyone away!

Hiya, had bad experience of flaming on aibu. But of course, this is not aibu.

I also really dislike interfering and that's my instinct - not to interfere - but this is really not helping and all her facebook friends are posting their views for all to see. Erk! I know bil is a twat but really not helpful for that to be broadcast - too difficult to get back from.

Thanks for your input.

Be careful. It's nice to be supportive, but you are on the bil side of the family and you don't want to alienate family. My uncle left his wife, everyone took her side and he didn't come round us for most of my life (I'm 31). It's only been in the last 5 or so years that he's gotten over it and started coming back to family events.