Relationship 'bibles'

[foureleven]

My step daughter asked me the other day if a book that I have 'The Rules of Love' was any good. I said it was and in a couple of years she could read it, shes 11 now.

It made me think about other books I could pass her way that if I had read a little earlier in life could have served me well...

decided; the Rules of Love, He's Just Not That In To You, and Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.

They should see her right! But theyre a bit obvious. nayone got any other good ones?

There are other ones I will be passing on for other areas but this is 'relationships..'

[bobbiewickham]

I hate Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. I find it sexist.

Tell her to read Women Who Run with the Wolves. She needs to spend the next few years finding out who she is, what she wants and what her boundaries are.

Then she'll have everything she needs to take into a relationship and get her needs met.

[BitOfFun]

I wouldn't give any of those books to a thirteen year old, to be honest. Give them enough time to develop a bit of experience-based wisdom first, I think.

[foureleven]

BitOfFun, I could have done without a lot of the 'experienced based wisdom' I had growing up!

Women who run with wolves... ill take a look. Thats interesting you say about Men are from mars... I read it years ago before feminism occured to me. Found it great back then but would consider myself a feminist now so maybe my opinion of it would have changed... will have a read.

[BitOfFun]

It is really sexist, honestly. Most of those American psychobabble ones are.

[IndiMamaJones]

I read a book (can't remember what it was called now) and turned to the page that was apparently 5 minutes a week to save your marriage - advice was to give your husband a blow job once a week to 'keep him sweet'

Didn't read any more of it!

[foureleven]

Haha indimama that is hilarious... no man would be content with just one blow job a week

[IndiMamaJones]

I asked dh if a man would not be offended if they realised their wife was just doing it to earn brownie points - he said that he didn't think they would care why, as long as they were getting one!

[foureleven]

that is soooo true.

[WhenwillIfeelnormal]

Please don't give any of that sexist nonsense to a 13 year old to read. Please bring her up to believe that men have feelings and that sex isn't something to be "traded".

Putting men into boxes that state that they won't open up about their feelings and that they need to retreat into "caves" perpetuates a myth that all men are like this. They are not. Our DD actually has an expectation that men do discuss their feelings, because she sees her DF doing just that.

Real life role-models of men and women having an equal, assertive, loving relationship are always going to be better than books that sterotype men and women in this way.

[foureleven]

Oooh I was planning to bring her up with those values... but thanks for the tips The rules of love actualy does demonsrtae what you mention

[foureleven]

Must re read men are from mars then actually, really cant remember it being that sexist. Only remember reading it (cant remember content) and thinking..... ooooohhhh so thats why they do that... and it fit with every man id met! Mind you, I had never had a good one until now so maybe that has changed!