We have been to Relate twice in the past 18 months.
My husband is hard to live with, very successful in business, very much The Boss at home as well as work. I gave up my job as a solicitor to look after our five young children.
We had a minor row on friday night, which spiralled into someting more becuase he felt I was out of order in something i said, and he "couldnt get over it" couldnt just "bounce back" and then proceeded to sulk for the rest of the weekend.
When I tried to talk it out with him he spoke to me in a really nasty way, saying stuff like he wondered why he ever married me, that I overanalysed everything, and that I would bleat about our problems to anyone "with a fucking heartbeat who would listen" to me. I found that hurtful, disrespectful and unfair.
This morning he asked me "what's wrong with you now or is it just the usual shit?" I told him that just becuase we had disagreements did not mean that he had to belittle me or insult me. I told him how upset that made me feel. He basically just shrugged and then headed out the door to mass (!) without any word of apology or anything.
I have really been trying in this marriage for the sake of our children. We seemed to be doing ok, quite well actually, then one argument happens and all the old resentment and vitriol starts spilling out from him again, like it was there all the time, building up quietly bahind the senes.
I dont know what to do or think. If he cannot even speak to me without the nastiness then what hope do we have of getting along again. I feel very very upset, scared and alone. I just needed to post this becuase I have read good advice and wisdom on this before and I hoope someone can offer me some at this point. Thanks