Should i write a book about how to attract SHIT men??

[Littleblue]

I mean..as a reverse psychology type thing...its becoming funny how awful its getting...other threads aside,ive just been propositioned by a friend i got real close to a couple of years ago..who turned away from our fledgling relationship and married someone else!...fine,but hes in IM inviting me to parties and telling me hes got a big enough car to sleep in the fucking back ...whats WRONG with me!!!

Honey, if you could write a book about how NOT to attract shit men, it would be an all-time best-seller.

If you do write a book I could give enough material for a couple of chapters..

Thats kind of the point Annie ..i think the mumsnet archives have enough for a very weighty tome indeed !

I think there might be a market for it - a What Not To Do -
First, have parents who are manipulative or unsupportive, spend all your time trying to please them and don't ever get any therapy.
Second, believe all the romantic bullshit about how love will find a way to transform horrible men into wonderful partners
Third, have a truly awful, seriously abusive relationship and, once you are free of it, don't spend any time on your own but rush straight into a new relationship while your head#s still in a mess...

Ooh, we could go on all day couldn't we?

Go on all day psychoanalysing me?

Actually I think the rules for attracting attention from the wrong sort of men are fairly simple. You need to be

(a) female

(b) (optionally) breathing

SGB, let us also remember to repeat to ourselves daily that a woman needs a man to complete her. What was the old joke, you know (I'm told it's repeated in the excellent book Eats Shoots and Leaves), where a class of English students were asked to punctuate the sentence "Woman without her man is nothing".

The male students had corrected it to "Woman, without her man, is nothing."

The female students had put "Woman: without her, man is nothing."

I'm not playing with men anymore...this last one who seems to have slunk off was really promising at first,had enough now..

Nice one Annie!!!!

I have a date

Of course you do, dear! You're attractive. (Female and breathing at the very least.) Just try not to take it seriously.

I've got a really good plan. It's called consciously (at least) avoiding relationships.

It's great! There are no men involved at all. It neatly sidesteps the whole issue of whether or not they are shit.

Seriously - stop chasing dates.

I don't do dating sites. I never go out. I always have my children with me.

there is no point in going chasing after blokes, because the decent ones are almost always already married or in good relationships - it's like the Harrods sale.

The only way is to become so that you do not require a bloke, at all.

It's sad but it's just how it goes I think.

It does sound like a good "How not to.." sort of book, not sure about the reverse psychology of the title though, I mean who in their right mind wants to attract a shit man - the title would need to be changed so people would actually buy the book and benefit from the wisdom!

I know I'm bitter,twisted and in a bad place....but - good ones,where the women are genuinely ok with the deal.....is that for real?
I mean,how much serious compromising goes on,by the woman?
Sorry if that is cynical ,and insulting to the many level headed,focussed and well balanced women out there

• Hey,I know there are plenty of those (hope to be one myself one day...)

But I'd love to know it can work - and how.....

There are already a plethora of books out there that do this, off the top of my head:

www.amazon.co.uk/Women-Who-Love-Too-Much/dp/0099474123/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1271838428&sr= 8-1

www.amazon.co.uk/What-Smart-Women-Steven-Carter/dp/0871319063/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1271838 450&sr=1-1

www.amazon.co.uk/Why-Men-Love-Bitches-Relationship/dp/1580627560/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1271 838476&sr=1-1

LOL!..wasnt chasing dates actually...this is a mutual friend who is local..and he asked me out for a civilised coffee..i dont see a problem with that tbh..im not looking for a husband!
I've no intention of consciously 'avoiding' relationships,i dont see why i should..neither am I 'desperately seeking something to complete me!
Skihorse,ive read women who love too much..thanks,i gave it to my mother who found it very enlightening indeed!
Thread titles a bit of a joke...
Pine martina..ive a couple of friends who have been together forever..very happily so with their partners,it occurs to me that society has changed alot faster than men in particular were ready for...which could beg the question as to wether thats the cause of what seems an epidemic of families breaking down??

Haha, I would buy a book called "How to attract shit men" - I would assume the title was tongue in cheek.

I seem to be at a point where I'm fine and happy being single, so recently, got chatting to an old friend, we are both attracted to each other, would be quite happy if it went further, but equally if it fizzled out or we got together and I realised he wasn't for me, it wouldn't be the end of the world - I'd rather be on my own than deal with another crappy relationship.

This is why I don't understand people getting all offended on the OP's behalf on a thread where the OP is talking about their husband and it's clear they don't particularly even like him any more, and people suggest leaving and everyone else gets offended saying "It's a knee jerk reaction to suggest leaving!" Eh? If you're not happy, what is wrong with leaving? Life is too short!

Although actually thinking about that I was about to post something along the lines of "Being in a relationship with someone is a choice, not a contract" and then realised that marriage kind of is

I think I am a little bit scared of marriage. I know there is no way I'd go into it lightly, anyway.

You know what?..maybe we all analyse a bit too much sometimes...if its good,feels right..everyones happy...I've never married,for someone who i suspect is seen as a 'love junkie' on here lol..that might be a surprise,but i wouldnt take marriage lightly either..as yes,it is a contract,and i wouldnt do it unless/til i believed with every fiber of my being it was for life