growing old alone

[without]

I'm a middle-aged woman; been divorced for over a decade and have 2 teenage kids.

Since my ex-husband and I divorced (he cheated pretty much throughout our marriage), I have only had a couple of relationships, both around 7 months in duration; the last guy went back to his ex-wife and I've not really dated since - that was over four years ago. I have tried internet dating a few times, but not met anyone.

My money is very tight, my work is demanding, I have virtually no family to speak of, and have very low self-esteem and confidence levels which counselling has done little to help with, and I'm really scared about growing old alone.

Has anyone any advice?

Bump.

what friends do you have?

i have no advice just that my MIL met her fabulous husband 2 years ago and she is heading towards 60

do you want to date?

Perhaps try an evening course, volunteering - doing stuff which means you are out and about and meeting all sorts of new people rather than dating

do you have a good relationship with your children?

it must be frightening to imagine being alone

can you go to your GP?

i mean go to your GP about your anxieties ...

Have you tried social events there is a company near where i live which is built as a social group any1 can join where the host different nights out with people in the same sort of situation it only cost £10 a mth and they have something on nearly ever night.Other than that i cant really suggest anything else sorry but if your up for a chat or if any1 else if up for chatting as i get really bored when my 2 are in bed you can add me on msn [email protected]

What are your interests?

If you love animals - offer to volunteer at the RSPCA.

If you can sing - join your church choir.

If you can cook - join a soup kitchen.

If you like to work with small children - offer to read stories to them at your local library.

Do something you love, in whatever free time you have - no money needed - you are bound to find like minded men and women who share your passion - they will introduce you to their friends and their friends will introduce you to their friends and so on and so forth and before you know it, you will have met someone lovely to grow old with - be positive, don't let negative thoughts drag you down - you deserve to be happy and loved

Work on making friends rather than partner-hunting - a person with good friends will not 'grow old alone' As others have said, look for groups and clubs which cater to your interests, whether that's music, stamp collecting or bungee jumping, and try to be open-minded to the possibility of people who are different ages/social classes/ethnic groups being good friend material (a lot of people seem to be unable to cope with either friends or partners being Not Like Me) and you will soon build up a reasonable social network.