Anyone else get totally overwhelmed with emotions?

[MargeHomerBart]

How do you manage them?

When I fall in love or fall out of love or have argumnets etc, or even if I don't I find myself getting very overwhelmed. I don't cry much but instead talk about my problems to everyone who will lsiten, ruminate and feel crap.

How do you deal with strong emotions?

I just want to stay calm.

I do - but I have no help to offer. I am utter crap at it all and DP is tired of listening to me talk about the same exact thing 10,000 times because I am trying to 'settle' it in my head or going back over it. (I do this a LOT, he is not being unreasonable). I also don't really cry, but just generally get stressed - even with good emotions. I just can't seem to handle myself. I will be watching this thread....

I don't know if this will help but I always struggled with emotions, found them very overwhelming and was very over sensitive. Finally figured out that it was due to my very fragile ego / self esteem. The tiniest critisism about anything ('I think the hair dresser has cut your hair slightly enevenly at the back) would lead to dissolving into tears, and me immediately feeling so bad about myself.

Now I have been in counselling for a few months and worked on myself I am lots better and can't imagine that I was ever that bad.

I don't know if that helps you!

This is me.

Horrendous, and is causing serious problems in my marriage as I am so volatile and my dh is my polar opposite.

I do his head in, I think.

I do my own in too. And I've been having therapy for five years.

I'm coming to the conclusion that I just have to accept it's the way I am, though. There are things that make me feel calm - gardening, watching birds, being near the sea. I just try and do as much of them as possible. And I apologise a hell of a lot.

I also have two of the greatest friends in all the world who are similar to me and very patient. I literally don't know what I would do without them to sound off to.

And there is MN, of course...

Have you tried acupuncture. I found it very calming and helped me 'let things go'
I was amazed when one of my 'pet' horrid thoughts popped into my head, I was able to think about it for a few seconds, mentally shrug and then move on to something else - a revelation!!