Head is in turmoil, don't know what to do

[Enchilada81]

I think the relationship between DH and I is pretty much over. I posted a few days ago about me wanting to leave but my head is just all over the place.
I can't find a house for starters as I'm not working and don't have a guarantor.
Apart from that, I just feel completely drained. He's acting as if nothing is wrong but everything he does just annoys me.
I want to train as a nurse but not even started my access course yet meaning qualifying is over 4 years away. I can't do this for 4 years and even if I could, I couldn't just walk out as soon as I qualified.
But then I'm thinking would I be able to qualify if I was a single parent at all? Who would look after the kids? I have no support around me and the children are not his so he wouldn't have anything to do with them afterwards.
I see a house advertised and think to myself "I really should phone about that one" but I just can't bring myself to do it. Does this mean I don't really want to leave? But I do, so much.

Why do you have to be the one to leave? Are you in rented accom?

I'd strongly recommend not moving out, but get the divorce on track first. A|s you have children, your needs take priority over his.

Within the divorce proceedings, your solicitor can apply/negotiate either for a transfer of the tenancy or of the equity depending on whether the house is owned by you or not. Doesn't matter whose name it's in at the moment.

The house is rented in DH's name and guarantored by his father so I wouldn't be able to stay here without DH. That was my first big mistake in this whole mess.

of course it doesn't mean that you don't want to leave. You should leave - he is a twat of the highest order (sorry)

Te reason for your inaction is fear of the unknown and a reasonable expectation that the process of eliminating him from your life will be hard work. Of course it will but it wil be worth it when you and your kids are happily settled.

I think you need to leave the academic issue on the side just for the time being. Its too much for your brain to think about findng a house, childcare, access courses all at once - no wonder you don't know where to turn!

Why do you and the kids have to move? Whose name is the house in?

I think you should go and have one of those free 30 min sessions with a lawyer to see what your options are. You could issue him with divorce proceedings even though he is still living there.

Once you have that sorted you could think about the nursing course. One thing at a time!

How old are your kids?

issue him with divorce proceedings and see a lawyer to find out what your rights are - it is rented in his name but you have children.