I think I've been a complete mug as far as my partner has been concerned. Ever since we got together he's lied about this and that. Alot of it was finantial stuff which I considered to be the most important/worse lies. A brief background is that he was declared bankrupt 4 years ago, before we met.
But, letters started arriving from a stupidly high interest "we'll give credit to anyone" company saying he owed them money. He swore blind it was their mistake as all his debts had been written off. He told me he'd phone them and made a big scene of going up stairs with the phone and the letter in hand. He never phoned them, just spoke to a dead line for 5 minutes.
He insisted it was all sorted. A few weeks later, another letter. He replayed his "phoning act". I had suspicions that he wasn't actually speaking to anyone (not as daft as I look) but I have him the benefit of the doubt. Weeks later, a "final warning, next step - debt collectors" letter. He played a good scene kicking off saying how dare they harrass him after he'd phoned them twice ... now can I just point out that throughout this whole scenario, as the weeks passed I asked him over and over again to tell me the truth about the whole thing. He denied ALL KNOWLEDGE. One day, I told a few porkies myself, made him believe I had info from somewhere else and he finally admitted that he DID have a debt with them but he was in the process of paying it back. A few more weeks went by - I knew something was up so I played with his head a bit and he finally admitted to lie no2 ... he hadn't phoned them the first time, but had the 2nd time.
A week or so later - I'd had enough and phoned provident, told a few lies to them, got them to tell me EVERYTHING which included the fact that he hadn't been in touch with them for over 6 months and had made no payments either. I asked DP, he denied all knowledge - looked me square in the eye and swore "I am NOT lying to you". So I changed tactic and told him someone was OBVIOUSLY getting debt in his name - which is fraud - and we should call the police. To my suprise, he actually agreed. I pushed it a bit further saying first thing in the morning we will go down to the police station and make a formal complaint. He sat there, panic striken face but STILL agreed with me!!! In the end I had to literally tell him "I KNOW YOU'RE LYING! GIVE IT UP!"
So, he did. He told me he hadn't phoned them and he hadn't been paying them but from tomorow he will pay them £25 a week EVERY week until it's paid off. He phoned them in front of me and arranged this. I heard the voice on the other side of the phone. I was happy with this but told him as he'd lied to me so many times before (bare in mind it wasn't just this he was lying about) I'd find it hard to trust him in future.
But, time has been ticking by and as far as I know, he's not told any lies recently.
Then, this morning we get a letter from Provident saying he is still in arears and needs to contact them. It then gave a detailed list of his recent paymenst. Last of which was on the 3rd of March and was for £7.50. He's been paying between £3 and £12.50 ever since he was found out. STILL below the minimum payment. SO WHY THE HELL DID HE LIE AND TELL ME HE WAS PAYING £25 A WEEK???????????
Do liars EVER change? I'm not even that suprised this time. I can't even be bothered to play around and ask him how much he's been paying and when before presenting him with the letter like I normally would. All trust is well and truely shattered and I don't even care anymore.
To top it off, yesterday he applied for a capital one card whilst I was out. He did tell me about this but what the hell would possess a recently bankrupt person to apply for one of the highest interest rate credit cards going???