SAHM and Dh working at home

[PippiL]

This cause any problems for anyone?

Am just about to leave FT work to be a SAHM. Not really through choice but through necessity - complete lack of childcare in new area.

I wanted part time but work turned me down.

Anywho, last year before I went back to work FT, I was doing various part time jobs and Dh was at home, and life was quite tense. Went through a really bad patch.

Obv am worried now that it wasn't just a "rough patch" but being being too close for comfort.

Any experiences?

I am still on mat leave at the mo and my DH works from home.

Has caused a few problems (DD can be quite noisy) but it works OK for us. DH goes to his office and closes the door. I don't disturb him/go near his office unless I really need something.

He comes out to pee, eat and make tea and will sometimes come and see us, sometimes not. Basically I just try and act the same as if he was at work in the office so I don't tell him if I'm going out or ask for help unless it is urgent.

It has lots of positives too - DH is always 'home' in time to give DD her bath and is on hand to answer the door, phone etc if I am feeding so I quite like it and DH still gets more work done than he does in the office.

DH works roughly 50% from home, 50% somewhere else in Europe. When he's home - to start with it was quite tricky (he made the fatal mistake of asking what was for lunch the first day ) but it works pretty well now. I just have to carry on as if he wasn't here - a fair bit of sshhing the DCs goes on, which I do resent a bit but basically just have to suck up.

Similar experience to the above... except to add that we watch more TV when he does happen to work in the office!

I pretty much do the same as PDog... saves him feeling put upon when its not convenient... and saves me being resentful...

I did get the occasional cup of coffee made for me which was great!

But if you've had a row... things can be tricky and uncomfortable where usually you would both have some space to clear your head..

Hopefully you will find some childcare in the future that you're happy with and maybe you can work again? If not, set your own groundrules...