This has really been upsetting me for a while and I am not sure what to do so would appreciate any responses.
I have been friends with her for about 9 years now and was thrilled and touched in equal measure when she asked me to be Godmother to her baby a few years ago.
However, in the past year things haven't been going very well between us. We haven't actually argued at all but she has let me down more times than I can recall- times we have arranged to meet for lunch with the children, weekends we have had planned etc. In a nutshell I get the impression that she doesn't value our friendship- she seems to have a lot of different friends now and goes out a lot getting pissed. If one of these friends suggests doing something then she cancels plans that we have. Now on one hand a big part of me thinks 'Fine then. I can do a lot better than this and I DO have good friends who don't dump me if they get a better offer'. That side of me would just leave things as they are. But on the other hand I have my Goddaughter who I absolutely ADORE, yet have not seen for a while again now because her Mother keeps cancelling the plans we have.
It's also worth mentioning that I have had a terrible year. I don't really want to go into the detail of it all but a lot of dreadful stuff has happened to me. This friend has not been in the least bit supportive to me and has actually acted as though nothing has happened for most of the time. In short- she has not been much of a friend to me at all and if it weren't for this precious little girl I would not be in contact with her at all.
I have taken to writing her letters and sending little gifts through the post. Yet the reality is that (given her age) this little girl isn't likely to remember me or have a relationship with me if this situation continues. I want to be able to see her, spend time with her, support her parents and in the future be able to have her to stay for weekends with my own children to give me friend a break. All of this is stuff we were all in full agreement about.
So, wise Mumsnetters- what do I do?
The way I see it I have two choices- let things continue as they are at the moment, or write to my friend, telling her how I am feeling and risk her cutting ties with me altogether ( she can be very judgemental and harsh at times).