My best mate's brother asked me out for a drink-would you?

[poshsinglemum]

He's lovely but I don't think I will. Too messy if it all went wrong.
I basically like my best mate more than her bro.

id ask my best mate

So would I.

poshsinglemum - but what if it didn't go all wrong? Worth a shot perhaps?

just say to your best mate, guess what your brother has asked me out - and see how she responds .... then take it from there ....
Perhaps she even knows

I wouldn't because he is gay.

Go if you want.

perhaps she suggested it?

Am an incurable romantic and sometimes the right person is right in front of you and you just don't know it.

Also just think - no awkward questions because he probably knows both the good and the bad!

Yes ask your best mate.

Yes go... but take it way slower than you would with anyone else you had met!

tell your best mate you will be going for a drink with her brother and see what her response will be, mind you its just a drink not a proposal of marriage so go and enjoy yourself who knows what might follow. My sister married my best friend and they`ve been together for 16 years and yes his not my best friend anymore his my brother inlaw we still get along without the going out bit and telephone calls in the middle of the night

if you like him then go

i went out with my brothers best mate for a few years, it didnt spoil their friendship when we broke up, because guess what? we are adults, and we dealt with it like so

I once went out with my brothers best mate and she hated it. She thought he was a cad (he was) and that he would be unfaithful to me (he was) but at the end of the day, guess what? she stopped speaking to me and 15 years later me and the brother are still in touch as friends.

It depends on your friend really... The brother of one of my friends has asked me out several times but my friend hates the idea of me being with him. Luckily I don't fancy him at all so the situation has resolved itself and it's now a standing joke (I'm friends with all her family) with no hard feelings etc.

My point is that it depends entirely on how your friend feels about this so, as everyone else has said, if you want to go then ask her.

I would ask her but it also depends on how much you like the guy. What if she didnt approve? what do you do then. On reflection, I wish my friend and her family had have kept their noses out.

Go! I know a couple that got together like this, had an intense, proper relationship and then split up and the female friends (sister and gf) are still as close as ever and all three get on pretty well. Both sets of parents are still friends. I suppose what I'm saying is, even if it doesn't work out it needn't be really messy.

Well, I did say yes. We've been together 7 years, married for 5 and have 2 gorgeous daughters. Now my friend is my sister-in-law and it's great!

I did, and it worked out pretty well.. actually, uncannily similar to toddlerama - together 7.5 years, married 5 years, 2 gorgeous daughters (well 3, but 2 we made together)

Have you said yes yet?

My good male friend went out with my sister for a few months. It was a bit awkward when they both wanted to discuss each other with me, especially when they were complaining about each other. Your best mate could end up 'piggy in the middle'.

It sounds like you're not that keen anyway.