Arrrrrrrrrrr I am going to kill him, he is driving me insane..................

[laurasarah]

Does anyone else have a husband is so particular.

Hes just came back after being away since Monday. Kids are out playing in the garden they come in with dirty feet and he insist on making them clean them before going in sitting room because he washed the carpet about a week ago. Meanwhile his dad is waiting for him to drive him to train station and they are not going to leave on time all because he cannot bear kids in living room with dirty feet. WTF. Hes driving me crazy.

He cannot sit still for 5 mins. If theres a crumb on the carpet hes got the hoover out, if theres a mark on the kitchen floor hes got the mop out. Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

Sori just needed to rant I am so mad!

There is a support thread somewhere for people who's partners have ASD tendancies, that might help you feel less alone?

and you dont really want to kill him

Thanks overmydeadbody where is the thread?

No trinity I dont really want to kill him but sometimes he makes me so mad!

Do you think its normal? His dad and his brother are like this too.

Dp is like this he can not sit still.
He makes me feel bad at weekends if I sit and chill because he is up and down like a blue arsed fly cleaning.

I offer solidarity.

Sometimes I just have to say "what is more important - you spending some time with DCs when you get in from work or you rushing off to rehang the drying which I have apparently not done properly?"

Sometimes it gets through...

God! I wish my husband was even 10% like that! Think yourself lucky! If I didn't clean up nothing would ever get cleaned up! Believe me, I'd rather be in your shoes! LOL

Is he a Virgo?

Eh i'm a virgo, what is that meant to mean?

Sounds like my DP, he's a Virgo.

Hi. While your post made me smile, I can sense your frustration. Whilst there is nothing wrong with cleanliness,if it becomes all-consuming,it is hard to live with.
I dont think your dh sounds like he hsa ASD, rather, OCD-obsessive compulsive disorder-or traits of it.
If, for the most part you can live with it,fine, but if it is impacting on you and the dc, then you need to decide how best to tackle this with your dh.
Ask yourself if he has always been this way,has it started to get worse, does he worry about germs etc. On the plus side you will always have a clean house, but you dont want your dc to be afraid to make a mess in their own house.

agreed on the non ASD front, more OCD.

Not that I live with it or anything

Thanks Ladies

Sori its took me so long to get back.

No he's not a Virgo he's a Scorpio and yes he has always been this way.

To put a bit of perspective on it I have got really bad PMT, really bad. Any other time it wouldnt so much bother me but at that time of the month I just find it makes me so mad!!!!

Hes not obsessive about germs etc just cant seem to sit still.

On the plus side hes a really good dad and husband minus the OCD.

BTW does anyone else suffer with really bad PMT? Do you know of anything that helps?

My ex DH was a Scorpio (not sure why we're talking star signs mind) but he too was a twat when it came to the house. A shirt not folded correctly would have him flying into a rage. I used to let him just crack on.