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Finding my femail friends hard work again.

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poshsinglemum · 07/04/2010 21:15

Mostly they are supportive but occassionally I think that things get a bit bitchy, competetive and petty.
I have a crush on someone atm and there is a bit of tittering going on.
I sometimes feel that my girlfriends sabotage my relationships with men indirectly be it through competetiveness, gossip or jealousy.
I feel like I get a bit paranoid sometimes. I live in a small time and gossip always gets back to me. I am naturally a very open, friendly person but sometimes I give people too much information before I can trust them. I sound like a paranoid nut don't I?
I'm just a bit fed up up the cliqueness of mum's groups. I went to a playgroup the other day and there was a horrid atmosphere because some mums who ran the group (volunatrily) thought that others weren't pulling their wieght and instead of being open and honest about it they stropped big time.
I miss mixing with men and the playful banter that goes with that.
I invited two girl friends to the pub on Sunday lunch. Both said they would come and BOTH didn't turn up. I wouldn't have minded if they had texted but they didn't bother. Very bad manners.
I am just finding other people hard work at the moment but I am not willing to become a hermit.
I think I need to play my cards close to my chest tbh.
Once at work I told a girl that i fancied one of the men who worked with us and of course she spread it in an unsuitable way. I am just fed up with dealing with such peopel but I hate having to keep things to myself. sigh.

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fallon8 · 11/04/2010 22:15

there oftehn comes a time, when friendships come to a natural end,this is one of them. You have changed and move on, they havnet. Also, small town syndrome,I have the same problem..Keep stuff to yourself for a bit longer.

poshsinglemum · 13/04/2010 08:27

Hi again all.

I'm going to keep banging on about this because I'v egot more to get out of my system.

One thing I also find with some women is that if I tell them some bad news about myself they can hardly contain their glee. For example I told an old boss of mine that I had ''fallen out with dds dad'' and she couldn't contain her smirk.
Another frenemy actually said ''excellent'' when I was arguing with dds dad. I mean who do these women think they are. They must be very miserable in themselves in order to get such kicks from other's misfortune.

I am fed up with women for the following reasons;
Competetive/defensive conversations
Backstabbing
envy
etc

I wrote on here a while back about my flatmate who was so jealous when I was pregnant she turned into the most evil person imaginable.

I wasnt to get rid of my toxic friends but tbh if I did I would have no mates!

It's getting me down. Sometimes I wonder if I can trust anyone in this world. Not good to be paranoid but still.

Or only one good friend..

Do you think that womne can really be good mates?

IME I can only really trust one of them and even then we are not immune from petty jealousies.

I'm not saying I'm perfect but I am so fed up with the patheticness of it all.

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