Pls advise, feel like pushing X under bus

[DutchGirly]

I have split from X for almost a year, it took me months to get him out of my house, eventually I physically removed him myself in August.

DD of 2.10 sees her dad on almost daily basis although she always sleeps over at my house .

X refuses to accept our relationship is over, I am not encouraging him in any way.

I am tired of his rambling, drunken emails, tired of his emotional abuse, the staring, the begging, the screaming, telling me what a horrible person I am but despite this 'he will take me back'.

I have tried every single strategy I can think off, he just does not seem to want to let go. I am seeing a very nice man and the jealous rages are unbearable (I think X broke into my email account, finding out about new man)

The police can't do anything, I have tried ignoring, not be drawn into discussion,politely ask him to stop but NOTHING works.

Please can anybody think of an alternative strategy? The only other thing I can think of is a contact center but I really do not want to do this to little one.

Are you SURE the police can do nothing? this sounds like harassment...

Your DD is 2, nearly 3, a contact centre is only a place to meet her dad... if that's what it takes for 6m for him to get the message, no harm done there is there.

otherwise, ditch your email address, cut all the contact points he has with you. Get a new phone number.

Come on Dutchgirly, you can do this... get tough and don't let him bully you.

Tell him your new man gave you herpes.

I can't ditch my email address, I am a free lancer and clients contact me on that. Ditto for telephone number.

I have tried to get tough with him, I just had to physically shut the door on him 5 minutes ago.

get a spy hole fitted so you can see if he's at the door. Stop answering calls. Make a note of all his communications with you. Can you get someone else to do the hand-over?

Go back to the police. I think they have let you down if they told you there's nothing they can do.

Log every incident. Build up a file of his harassment of you.

Solicitors letter?

And you say you don't want a contact centre? Better that than put yourself at risk. I have no idea what kind of man your ex is, but it is not unheard of for this sort of thing to escalate.

Thanks for the advice.

I think I need to go back to the police, I have no idea if he actually refuses to leave the house and I have to push my full weight agains the door to close it in front of my daughter this must mean something.

He is not threathening to tell our daughter what I did to him when she is older, god he is a real charmer, how on earth did I ever get involved with this man?

OK then at least you have to block his number from your phone, and his email address from your email.

You are a freelancer, then you can change you details gradually, tell them now and take the rest of the year to make the switch. Put the new contact details on your invoice, get an email card designed and mail it to you all your contacts. Tell them you have been hacked, and that your details have been compromised if you have to.

Agree with the other posters, get a diary together and log everything, let him build the evidence against him.

If he is threatening to drag your poor daughter into this, then you have to go the contact centre route.

Seriously, you have to nip this behaviour in the bud once and for all now, or it may very well escalate.

Call Women's Aid, tell them what he does and see what they say about it.