I'm a long-term lurker who could really do with some advice. I really can't get perspective on this so have posted here rather than being flamed in AIBU!
Background story is that DP is a keen Formula 1 fan. Secondly, he had an operation two weeks ago to remove a cyst from the top of his bum. It is healing well and he has been able to go to work each day and since the operation. He has also been able to drive to Harrogate (from Manchester) to visit his parents and back which is a drive of about two hours each way.
Now to the issue in hand (you are probably wondering how bum cysts and F1 are linked)......DP suggested (post op) that we go to Glasgow to visit my parents next weekend. We have both taken the Friday off work to go and parents have made various arrangements for meals with relatives - including my 87 year old granny.
My cousin, her husband and her little (1 year old) boy live in Edinburgh. I re-located down to Manchester from Scotland about two years ago; really at DP's instance as he wasn't keen to move to Scotland. Since then, he and I (together) have probably been back to visit about 7 times so I am not making him go up to Scotland ever second weekend.
My cousin and her husband know my partner and all get on well. My cousin suggested that we come to Edinburgh and stay the night with them and go out on the Saturday night as it is her husband's birthday. We would also get to see her little boy. On Friday night, my best friend suggested we meet her partner and her for dinner.
I came home tonight to discuss these plans with DP. To be told (huffily) "It's the Formula 1 that weekend. If we stay the night in Edinburgh on Saturday, I wont be able to watch the F1 on the Sunday". DP is now trying to turn matters round by saying that, in fact, he feels that he couldn't go to Scotland that weekend as he couldn't sit in the car (although he had no problem this weekend sitting for hours watching the F1 or driving to Harrogate and sitting around for hours at his parents). However, as an alternative, we could go this weekend instead.
I'm thoroughly pissed off with him (although I have managed to remain calm) as I feel that he suggested that we go that weekend. Therefore, why should I have to now inconvenience my parents etc (who actually have a very active social life) and ask them tto unpick all the arrangements. Separately, I would actually really like to go out with my cousin and her husband on his birthday. We are very close and a big regret of mine in living in Manchester is that I miss out on lots of these kinds of occasions. Further, I can't work out how he would be able to drive to Glasgow and back in two days this weekend without it affecting his health but couldn't manage next week over a three day period (he also has the Wed and Thurs off before so could rest then)
I am contemplating just going on my own and saying he feels to ill to come but then everyone would wonder and worry as to why I had left him on his own.
Re-reading this, the issue probably appears increadibly childish but I am upset about it. We have been together for 4 years and I knew that he was a keen sports fan when we met. However, the F1 has become a real passion/obsession over the last two years and I feel that I didn't sign up for that!
How do you suggest I handle?