another book recommendation, please

[FearlessLeader]

DP and I have decided that quite a few of our problems have stemmed from the resentment we both feel about each of us having become very sexually selfish and lazy over the past few years- any recommendations on good books to get us started with? I don't really want anything too "gaze into each other's aura", but not something full of bullet point step by step tricks either. Also there's no problems with desiring each other or wanting sex, we've both just become rather focussed on ourselves. Anyone know of any good books? there are so many, i have no idea where to start.

Superhot sex by Tracey Cox.

Surely it's a very easy problem to solve though? You each focus on the other's pleasure instead of your own and try out different techniques, or toys, or positions.

In a long relationship it's easy to get into a rut of doing what works for you, the trouble is that over time, only one thing "works" so you don't bother with anything else, it's great fun trying out different things, even if they don't work first time around it's worth the practice.

We've managed to change/improve our 28 year sex life over the past 12 months , from satisfying but a bit "samey", to incredible, passionate, sheet ripping sex.
My good tip is to not finish in the same position you started in and concentrate on the other person more than yourself.

Oh, and it wouldn't be a sex post from me without mentioning lube ! Makes good sex into fantastic sex.

Forget the books, all the time you will spend reading could be spent rediscovering each other instead.

You don't need a book to help you, you just need the desire to change and improve.

Perhaps a naked blindfolded exploring session might help you both rediscover each other?