Could you live with a person you knew to be dishonest?

[WisforWogarts]

If you knew your DH had been dishonest about stuff in the past, could you live with him?

For instance when I first got with him, he was selling something for his ex and he quite proudly told me that he was going to tell her he only got £20 for it when really he got £50.

I have since found out that his ex would never have a joint bank account with him as we was quite likely to "rip her off".

He has lied to me a lot in the past. On more than one occasion he has looked me directly in the eye and said "I swear to you, I'm telling the truth" - only for it to turn out a lie.

Last week his daughter gave him £2 of her pocket money to buy her an easter egg and a milkshake from the shop. He got the egg for £1 and the milkshake for 50p. When he got back he told her it came to £2 and she had no change.

I didn't know this until I brought up casually what a good deal those milkshakes were for 50! her face was a picture.

DH said "it's only 50p" but that's not the point is it??! I'd feel really guilty if I'd done that to my kids.

Could you live with someone you knew to be a liar/dishonest?

no, based on the thread name and your OP, no I couldn't live with someone who's dishonest. direct & straight down the line is how I like to be & how I like my friends & family to be.

(unless it comes to XH and my telling him i'm brassic myself and that's why I can't lend him yet another £30, or to have to ask for the money back for the same detail - disclaimer - this is only said when I do only have about £50 myself thou until after rent has been paid)

No. I couldn't. It shows a meanness and selfishness that would render a person totally unworthy of my love.

annie - i know what you mean - even though my h put us through hell i really did/do trust him to always do the right thing by the children.

I know he does sometimes have an issue with the truth - like how much wine he has had - and sometimes he does forget what time he said he would be home.

Trust does not have to be on every level - but you need to know which bits you are willing to accept.

WTF? He stole 50p from his daughter? That is messed up.

No I found this impossible. My ex used to pawn our stuff when I was away and occasionally took money from my purse. Each night before I went to bed I used to have to hide my purse, credit cards etc, car keys and mobile phone. The first day after he moved out it felt so good to just go to bed leaving my stuff out.

No way could I live with or have any respect for someone who behaved like this.

Bitoffun - summed it up for me really. Any love would be killed.