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sex question - tmi...

22 replies

susia · 02/04/2010 22:06

Hi, I wondered if any of you have any advice about this.

I have started a newish relationship with someone I really like and everything is going really well apart from this problem about sex

I have always in past relationships had no problem reaching orgasm but only through intercourse (which probably makes me a bit unusual). Anyway, with this guy I can every time through oral (which is a first for me!) but not through intercourse which I am finding really frustrating.

Although he is great in bed and not at all selfish I can't seem to explain or he doesn't get that I need less thrusting if you see what I mean..!

OP posts:
BitOfFun · 02/04/2010 22:11

I think you would be better off talking to your sexual partner about this than anyone here. What do we know?

Original poster
susia · 02/04/2010 22:12

sorry if that was a bit graphic, just don't know what to do

OP posts:
kittya · 02/04/2010 22:13

postioning?

poshwellies · 02/04/2010 22:14

Urm...just bloody tell him.

kittya · 02/04/2010 22:17

or, is it that important? you already sound lucky to me!

SlinkyGoober · 02/04/2010 22:19

Dump him. Get a rabbit.

SolidGoldBrass · 02/04/2010 22:20

Tell you what, I'll pop round with a tape measure, a torch and a bunch of diagrams I donwloaded from the internet. Then you and him can go at it on the carpet and I'll shine my torch on your foof and his willy, wield my tape measure and tell you exactly how and where you're both going wrong.

Alternatively, you could spend some time alone with a dildo and work out what you need in terms of speed, angle and depth of penetration and then tell him that.

SleepingLion · 02/04/2010 22:20

Yes - only orgasms through oral? How terrible!

In the immortal words of Chandler Bing: Oh no - two women love me, my wallet's too small for my fifties and my diamond shoes are too tight!

Malificence · 02/04/2010 22:22

Umm, get on top and control the pace and rhythm? All he's got to do is enjoy the ride, if he needs more thrusting to finish, he can flip you over, et voila! You both get your jollies.

kittya · 02/04/2010 22:25

I dont think I could be even bothered to bring it up tbh, its not like he's crap in bed!!

BitOfFun · 02/04/2010 22:37

Yet you can be bothered to bring it up here. Strange.

poshwellies · 02/04/2010 22:50

okaaay

Monty100 · 02/04/2010 23:08

who is op.

BertieBottsChocolateBeans · 02/04/2010 23:11

kittya is not the OP, susia is.

BitOfFun · 02/04/2010 23:16

Ah- perhaps I got the wrong end of the stick.

Monty100 · 03/04/2010 00:07
Confused
kittya · 03/04/2010 00:48

You have and there was no need to get nasty.

kittya · 03/04/2010 01:02

thats twice in one night. Not nice.

BitOfFun · 03/04/2010 01:12

My apologies, kittya- I am sensitive after a load of voyeuristic trolls this week. But I realise you aren't one now, so sorry I jumped down your throat.

kittya · 03/04/2010 01:17

what trolls honey? thats okay. I just thought it was abit strange!! the OP should count herself lucky, me thinks!

EricNorthmansmistress · 03/04/2010 10:39

It's a new relationship, it takes a while to get in synch with each other, there isn't really a problem here, except that he thrusts too much for you which you should tell him....

BessieBoots · 03/04/2010 10:41

Second the get on top and control it all yourself suggestion.

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