Ok this is a long one but I really could do with some honest opinions.
This time last year my BIL split up with his fiancee. They had been together for 5 years and had just moved out from a rented house that was next door to me and dh and bought their own place. BIL had met someone else who he worked with so he cut all ties, moved out, cancelled wedding etc. It was decided that me and dh would buy the house from them which we did and we moved in 2 months later.
The X was very upset understandably and some of it was because she thought she would lose contact with me and dh. If I'm honest I never really thought of her as being close. She could be quite Jekyll and Hyde at times so you never knew which way to take her and if she was ever round her family her personality would change completly.
At the time of the split I told her not to worry that we would remain in touch and not block her out IYKWIM.
In the meantime BIL has bought another house with his new girlfriend, who is might I add fantastic.
She was always calling up asking me to go out with her which I did a couple of times or she was ringing to see if she could come over. I remember on dd's birthday she even wrote Godmum under her name on dd's card!
2 months ago she told me she was having a party on the 23rd of July. I though it was a strange date to pick and told her this. She then reminded me that this was when her and BIL were getting married and the party was a celebration???!!! Again the phone calls kept coming, asking me if I would go. The last time I spoke to her, I said I would have to see if dh was working but she never rang back and I haven't heard from her for a while now.
Now, obviously the 23rd was yesterday and I feel a bit guilty but I didn't really want to go for the following reasons;
- Like I said before I never really "clicked" with her.
2)It can't be very pleasant for BIL's new girlfriend knowing that I still see his x. New girlfriend and I get on very well btw.
3)No one else in the family bother with her so it's like it's all left down to me IYKWIM.
So what would you do? Would you just leave it and not contact again or would you stay in touch?