Have posted many times but a brief recap.
Married over 20 years, I've been very unhappy for the past 5. DH drinks too much (but has been trying not to recently in spite of not admitting that he does), spends too much (we're heavily in debt), excludes me from his life and generally appears to not give a damn about me or DDs. We spend most evenings sitting in different rooms and he goes out alone several times a week. No sex for 3 years, I'm not interested, probably because I resent him so much and suspect he's going elsewhere (several months of texts from another woman last summer - he claims she's a friend. I have to take full responsibility for finances, family, home etc and I want out once eldest finishes GCSEs this summer.
After the "defining moment" threads recently, I finally summoned up courage to say I thought we should separate for all the above reasons. He did his usual trick of trying to act as if I hadn't spoken then claimed that everyone lives like this. Refused to discuss, walked out of the room then hasn't mentioned it since.
I am starting to bore myself because escaping is all I ever think about. He's not a bad man but he lives as if he is single, and always has done. This is his second marriage.
We both work full-time and I could cope financially if he paid half the mortgage plus maintenance for the kids and he would be able to afford a rental property. I'd sell up if he preferred.
I suppose my question is, what do I do when he won't accept that we've reached the end of the line? We've always been bad at communicating - he just gets up and walks out of the room or even the house rather than discuss anything.
Please help, I want my life back. Eldest DD is fairly scathing about him because of his lack of involvement in our life, youngest will be very upset, she's a more sensitive soul.