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Am i just looking for an excuse to hate him?

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avariceandlatinos · 27/03/2010 16:50

Am i looking for an excuse not to get back togeter? i broke up with my long term partner. i was lonely i the relatioship because we (me ad dh) always came last, and sometimes he made comments like 'just because you accidentally have a child doesn't say anyting about the status of the relationship.' so i've tossed his arse out. We talked and he wants to try to 'live as married' but i said wait until after the weekend for my decision because i'm still upset. now i'm resentful because dh is sick and i'm lonely and he's gone off to london for a fun time with his mates after telling me he was working all weekend - but isn't it my fault for telling him i wanted to be on my own for the weekend? I kinda at least expected him to check in... he told me he wants to meet up when he's finised is golf tomorrow. Should i tell him to piss off? Or am i being unreasonable now because i'm looking for an excuse?

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avariceandlatinos · 27/03/2010 16:52

i should mention it's a mini gold tournament not just a hobby trip! lol (but he's no tiger woods - in every manner of speaking!)

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ninah · 27/03/2010 16:53

yes tell him to piss off
you broke up because you and dc always came last - what's changed?

avariceandlatinos · 27/03/2010 16:55

pardon i meant me and dd not dh! lol

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coppertop · 27/03/2010 16:55

You split up because he always put himself first. Now that you're considering getting back together you have to wait until he's finished playing golf.

Doesn't exactly sound promising.

poppy34 · 27/03/2010 16:56

I assume by dh you mean dc?

And difficult to say if yabu as don't know howong been together, what he was like. Also do you really mean you didn't want him around or were you saying one thing and meaning another(that you did want him)? As if you don't say what you want/expect he may not know (eg like to ring you when he is away)

poppy34 · 27/03/2010 16:59

And would agree- IMHO it's never good when you get the I am of playing golf/rugby/watching sport etc rather than spending family time(am
not saying can't do that sometimes).

avariceandlatinos · 27/03/2010 17:00

i just kind of expected he would't go off and play single-man which is what this whole argument is about anyway, i thought he would do something responsible to show me he was serious.

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AnyFucker · 27/03/2010 17:03

I don't think you need any more "excuses"

if he is just carrying on with the behaviour that split you up the last time...then what is the point ?

bin

Doha · 27/03/2010 17:08

Bin

legscrossed · 27/03/2010 17:31

a big fat piss off

avariceandlatinos · 27/03/2010 19:16

just tried to ring his phone and it's switched off

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AnyFucker · 27/03/2010 19:18

when someone tells you what they are....listen

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