I have just changed the locks on my home so that my partner can't come back. He agreed to us having a break and is out of London but I know I can't have him back. We have 3 month old triplets and a six year old and the last 6-9 months have been horrendous between us. He has just lost his latest job for being 'intoxicated and extrememly aggressive and abusive on the premises'..has been staying out all night coming in drunk at 8 am and I found out he'd spent just under two thousand pounds in a lap dancing club - this is after he lost his job! He has no money at all and I know if I let him back in next week (he's requested three days here to sort out his stuff) he won't go...and I'll be back to square one. Why do I feel so terrible?? I've done everything for him for the last 8 years, found him every job, organised every aspect of our lives...I think I'm so used to mothering him. there have been so many awful scenes that have led me to this point, he has never hit me but throws things around and screams and shouts..gets in a total fury - it's all the stress of three tiny babies and us living in a small flat but he takes none of the responsibility and is furious with me for putting him in this situation. I guess I did push him into ivf - my mum paid for it and he's still staying he wishes he'd never agreed. It's just that classic thing of when he's lovely he's so lovely and is a very loving dad to our son. I know when he sees the email telling him that Ive changed the locks he's going to go ballistic and will make me feel like the biggest bitch on the planet. Am I?? I'd appreciate your thoughts....