I know we've had this before, but i can't find it. So did you fancy your partner the first time you met, or did you fancy but not like them much, that type of thing.!!

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I find it really interesting to read what people thought of their partners, dh's dw's when they frist came into contact. It's sometimes funny how the unlikeliest people got together.

Erm, and yes, my question is becuase I have sorta met soemone who i didn't think I would like, but do. !!

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NO, I didn't really fancy him...I thought he was quite nice in a bland sort of way but never bothered to get to know him (despite the fact that we worked in the same office) because I thought we'd have nothing in common.

As soon as we actually started speaking to each other I realised I had been very wrong. He then offered to come round one Saturday morning to take some photographs of my horse, and 15 years later I still haven't got rid of him...!

Yes, he is utterly gorgeous.

OMG yes-still do

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Hmm, diddl... to use a coarse internet term, I'd do that.

First thought on seeing XH was that he was a bit freaky, and later, on chatting, that he was rather silly. Goes to show that first impressions sometimes are the most accurate. Spent the next few years trying to convince myself he had hidden depths. Found them, but they weren't nice. Divorced.

Fancied him but he had a girlfriend at the time so were just friends for a while.

He is old school friend of a friend who didn't see it at all or would have introduced us sooner. (He was long haired, John Lennon glasses wearing, sunflower growing post grad student. I was thrusting media type. We have grown together in the middle).

It instantly felt like coming home. I cycled back to my flat that night grinning from ear to ear. Being with him made me feel like I was on happy pills. It was beyond fancying it was (boak, I know )soul nourishing

absolutely!!

It was in a scummy pub where I was organising a gig and the future Mrs IC came in to do a piece about local music for the radio. I thought she was hot stuff straight away and was very chuffed when she asked if she could interview me....

only it then turned out that we'd met about a year ago when I was hosting the launch of a youth music program, except I couldn't remember her at all!

did not fancy, thought was supercilious dick

yes, thought immediately 'MMmmm... not bad!' If i don't think/feel an attraction straight away when we first meet its very unlikely that someone grows on me and i suddenly realise i fancy them, i either do, or i don't, and thats it for me.

Yes, instantly - and it was the same for him. However, it was a case of lusting from afar in a very big company, because he was engaged to someone else

A year or so on and after he had broken off his engagement, unbeknowns to me, he volunteered for a special project in my department. It was a rubbish project that no-one in their right mind would have volunteered for, but he had an ulterior motive .

We had a few drinks as "friends" and he was such a perfect gentleman that I was convinced he wasn't interested, but on the fourth date he finally made a move - and it was as though time stood still - that kiss was amazing.

From that point onwards, it felt so "right" - no game-playing, no "rules", just an incredible combination of someone I felt completely comfortable - and myself with - and an intense, all-consuming physical attraction.

27 years on from that first date, his kisses are still amazing and he's still the person I most want to spend an evening with.

aw, that's lovely WWTFN - hope we're still like that in 24 years time...

No I thought he was lovely tho. we worked at the same place and I was dating someone else but very unhappy in that relationship. I dumped my partner and wanted some fun so thought he might come ballroom dancing with me, so we did and had one of the best nights of my life. Never looked back since. Apparently he fancied me the first time he saw me though, he tells me all the time. sometimes I wonder if I live up to his expectations tho, even though we are happy.

I definitely fancied my dp and as i got to know him more i realised what other great qualities he has and since then 6 yrs ago have never looked back x

I definitely fancied my dp and as i got to know him more i realised what other great qualities he has and since then 6 yrs ago have never looked back x

Talked online for 3 months before meeting in person. I never fancied him from his online photos at all.

But 3 months of attuning yourself to someone mentally via webchat, makes for an overwhelming anticipation that invokes high emotion, which must kickstart your biology somewhere and translate into physical desire.

I believe this process is universal amongst all couples who 'meet' online and correspond via webchat then meet up in person, hence so many failures with internet datng, as it's too easy to misinterpret 'synchronicity' and what you think is common ground or worse, 'fate', when you're chatting online, so you start beleiving you've found your Dream Person because they communicate with you so well online, so that when you meet in real life, you just naturally want to Ground all that stored Electricity in the Earthiest wway possible!