My friend has just told me that her husband is verbally abusive and controlling. She has been very depressed, and is now feeling a lot better (meds and counselling). Her H is far from happy with her new outlook, and criticises everything she does. He accuses her of being a drunk, an unfit mother, fat, and yells that she disgusts him. She told me that during a very hard time in her life she was drinking too much, but he offered no help or support. She now feels that her drinking is under control (from what she told me, it is). He buys wine, pours her a glass, then abuses her after she's drunk it. He is vile when her family or friends visit, making everyone uncomfortable. He has started picking fights in front of their young DD, telling her that she is fat and he 'didn't sign up for this' (she is a size 10, btw). If she calls him on his behaviour, he turns it around on her. Eg., she told him that she was happier away from the house visiting family than at home with him, because of his behaviour. He said that she would be, because they were all piss heads (not true).
I am way out of my depth here, tbh. I listened and asked her what she thought, and she said that she felt that the curtains had been opened now that she could hear herself say these things out loud. She wants the situation to change. I told her that I would support her in any way that I can, and that her marriage was not 'normal', and that these 'arguments' were not ok. She brought up the possibility of approaching womens aid for advice, and I said that I thought that was a good idea (her H has talked a lot about 'his' money and her 'wasting it', so shes anticipating being penniless)Did I do the right thing? Should I have said anything else/different?