opinions on how to deal with this.

[saddest]

I really could use your ideas on this.

The full story is on my other thread.

This morning we were talking about how h had started to push ds (13) around when he was angry.

Ds said that it's ok because it didn't hurt.

Obviously it is not ok to push and shove people, let alone kids.

H is gone now. But comes here regularly.

How to deal with this? How to heal the damage?

poor you and poor ds . Your ds sounds very mature. I hope he realises though that it is unacceptable behaviour and that his Dad was acting like a complete oaf. ~Well done for getting your H to leave. That wil speak volumes to your ds.

i agree with snowkitten immature man its uncalled for he needs to behave you were wise to ask him to leave