why does DW laugh when we talk about affairs....

[hairylovemuscle]

So, a question for you all.

We were talking about affairs, and that I have never and would never (and i mean it) go with another woman (or man) as I only have eyes for my wife. Unless of course she cops it, then its OK.

I back this up by saying that if I drop dead, then she is allowed to go with another man.

Her response was, "what, only once you're dead?" and laughed.

Now, what does THAT mean?

She sounds lovely

It sounds to me like she was taking the piss. It was a joke.

I think she was joking...

If she was up to summat, I think you would have had a different response

I say that kind of stuff to my dh all the time. its called a sense of humour

I'd probably say that to my DH if he said that, but I have no intention of having a fling or anything else as I love him dearly and fidelity is very high on my list of moral must-dos. So maybe she is just like me

it's the kind of thing I would say to DH, if he was getting all intense and needy (which he doesn't...thank Gawd)

Possibly it was the pronouncement that she would be "allowed" to go with another man that prompted the piss-taking. You'll be dead - you can't be controlling from beyond the grave.

Its means shes shagging your best mate

well, so do I, but she seems to think that cos i travel around the world, I have a hooker in every hotel. She may be joking, but it kinda hurts when she claims she doesn't believe me.

Not all men go round shagging everything that moves!

Sounds like a joke to me

Something I would say

Er, you're here under the nic hairylovemuscle, trying to make us make your DW believe you don't shag about?

well, that is very good news hlm

but you don't need to over-egg the puddin' ya know

if you bang < ahem > on about it, she is going to start thinking you protest too much

did you join MN purely to chat about this (and cork tiles ...)?

shag, yes.

Around, no.

hairy, just a bit

Love - yes

muscle - yeah.

;-)

No, I wanted to get involved, but I don't get enough time to.

aww, OLKN, hairylovemuscle is quite a good name

I like it

I like it too!

yes, cyb, but do you like the name ??

mwah-ha-haaaaaaaaa

I did too....

It's when you can't joke around about things like that, that's when it's potentially serious.

DH says similar things often and I told him today that after the carpet fitter had laid the carpet, he laid me ( he didn't, as it happens, he hoovered up his mess) .

Just because you wouldn't actually be unfaithful, doesn't mean you can't joke about it.

I had a very realistic dream about my ex having an affair once. When I told her about it in the morning she was, to my supprise, very irritable and defensive.

A few months later she told me she'd been having an affair. I asked her at that time about her reaction to the dream and she said it had made her feel guilty and she hadn't know how to respond.

So based on experience I'd say the reaction you got it a good sign

I would have read this as not being allowed to shag another man unless you were dead... and thought what about if we split up?

It means she's having a laugh.
In our house, common response to the phonecall "I'm on my way home honey" is "Don't hurry, I'm just getting rid of the hookers and beer."
You have to be able to have a laugh together.

Exactly the same thing as i would say.

Love that Gay40