Would it / does it bother you to be with someone for long hours?

[electra]

The person I'm with works at least 50 hours a week, sometimes more. The only time I can see him is on his day off, and if I have something I can't get out of on his day off we can't see each other and because of his work he's often quite tired.

I wonder, should I be bothered by this and how much of a problem is it in a relationship - it is a relationship in the monogamous sense and not a casual thing. I can't see us ever being able to go away together or even for the day........any opinions?

There is not a right or wrong here. If he has been working like that since you met him, then I guess asking him to be different is going to be tough. On the otherhand if you want to be with someone more than one time in the week, well that is what you want. I can't see any compromise. Either you put up with it (and if it doesn't work for you now, it won't even less as time goes on), or you tell him that you feel , for you, that you are looking for a RS to be a priority in your life, and for you that means such and such is happening..(However many times you want to meet up, go away for weekends, etc.), and that you don't feel that he is available for that kind of time or prioritising commitment