Anyone had an affair and not destroyed their lives?

[Oscy]

I was browsing relationships forum, as you do, and got to wondering how many women have had an affair and managed to not implode their lives, relationship wise? I am specifically talking about married women who have affairs with other men, and who don't end their marriages but who don't agonise about it either and are content to have an affair.
I'm guessing there must be a few. My off the top of my head thoughts are that those women that are able to do this think more like men (able to detach emotionally, etc).
Am I alone in this?

I dont believe men are more able to detach themselves emotionally than women to be honest, I think it's probably pretty even across the board.

I wouldn't say I was content that I had an affair - it was not just a trivial bit of fun and did cause a lot of emotional aftershock. But it didn't destroy my life or wreck my marriage. I wouldn't do it again either, but I guess at the time, yes, I was detached emotionally from my DH in order to justify the affair. Not sure if that makes me more like a man though . I think we can all make these mistakes for any number of reasons.

Mine certainly didn't destroy my life, although it did destroy my marriage as it showed me there was more to life than I was settling for.
My life is better for it, I'm with the man I had an affair with (because he waited for me) and touch wood, blissfully happy.

How nice to hear that Sparkle :-)

Hang on, got the gist wrong haha, no I'm obviously not one of the one's you were asking about.
I must admit though, when I was having the affair I had very little guilt.

I agree with whoingods.

I'm hoping it hasn;t destroyed my life as such but yes I am getting divorced after having an affair - so I'm not one of the women you are after either.

I've never come across a woman in the situation you describe but then it's not something you shout from the rooftops I suppose

My affair came after a period when I was very uncertain about the future of my relationship with my exH and we had become emotionally and physically detached for a period of about 3 years before it happened.

Once I realized what was actually going on (and so did my ex) we pretty quickly agreed to get divorced as it was obvious things were not reconcilable between us.

It did cause a lot of hurt and pain at the time which I feel tremendously guilty about but I am trying not to let it destroy my life nor that of my ex or my DCs.