If your baby/toddler sleeps in your room, how do you be erm.. intimate with your DH?

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6 month old DD is in our room and probably will be for a good while yet.

Its not something that has really been an issue so far as sex hasn't been high on the list of prioritys since DD was born.

But I'm getting to a point where I'm starting to feel ready again, but how/where do you do it with a child in your room?

When they are asleep?

DS was in with us until recently, he's 18mo. Never a problem TBH. We even managed it when co-sleeping

Just don't be excessively noisy - and if you fancy a noisy session do it in the living room! We had some good times on the sheepskin rug!

You do know that babies don't know you're having sex right? Even if they were awake, they wouldn't know what you were doing.

My DH and I have just been creative in the other rooms. Can't do it with a baby in the room whether it knows or not.

I'm nervous about doing it in another room as we have older children who might walk in!!

I know she won't know what we're doing but I just can't with her in the room, I can't relax enough.

We used to put the duvet on the floor in the living room most nights from about 7 and sit on it watch tv, eat snacks and have sex.

Cheap entertainment of a night when you got a baby and cant go out. Bit more difficult with more than one kid have you not got a study/spare room and you could do the same but say you are just watching tv?

So you won't do it in your room with babs AND you won't do it in any other room?

Then.... you'll have to go without

Quietly

Only because if baby was disturbed it would put me off & I would be wanting to check they were OK.

Discreetly. When they are SOUND asleep

As above, when they are asleep mostly, but ours would, from about 8 months, happily go into her cot in a another room for a play and to watch her mobile (althugh that bloody plinky plonk music is not sexy!)for the duration.

And a couple of times in the front of the car, while she was asleep in the back...

Best of luck...

I'm with Inzidoodle, maybe the bathroom, understand that it may be a bit difficult with older children. You say dd is in your room, is he in your bed? when ours were little, we used to put the cot bumper on the outside of the cot so that if he woke up and rolled around he couldn't see us. Yes we knew that he wouldn't understand what we were doing but I just couldn't get comfortable. If he's in moses basket still then I don't see what the problem is.

Be quiet!

My children sleep in my bedroom so that this sort of carry-on does not occur. Serves me right for having so many of the blighters!

Like diddl says, quietly!

It is possible. DP and I have actually only been together properly since I found out I was pregnant. (Thankfully we were both very happy about it, but that's a different story).

So we've had to start our sex life while pregnant, and then co-sleeping. (And sober too! I don't know about you, but I'm used to having at least a little alcohol to help ease the way when you're getting to know each other in a new relationship. Not this time, oh no!)

I'm looking forward to finding out what happens when we finally get our own room
DS is 15 months now.

I should explain - DS is in a cot for some of the night!

You say that the baby may be in your room for a while yet (and have reasons why you can't have sex elsewhere)- but you do know that this is not outside your control, yes? It's important to get your relationship moving again, not least for your children's happiness. Why not consider moving the baby to their own room?

Or at least fit a bolt onto the livingroom door if you don't want to do that? It's not too difficult to think of something, but it's worth doing, really.

DD2 was conceived on a futon in the spare room

Living room floor or sofa for us as well.

I don't know what age your other DC are OP but there must be a time of an evening where they are sleeping.

We can't move DD out of our room as there literally isn't anyroom for her cot in any of the other bedrooms. We only have a small house. We she is old enough we're going to get bunks for eldest DD's room and baby will go in the bottom bunk. Til then we're stuck with her in with us.

I think we're going to have to fit a small lock to living room door, good idea BOF!

Older DC are 9 and 11. They often creep downstairs long after their bedtime.

Bathroom is a good idea too!

We've had our 3.5 year old in our excuse for a bedroom for the past 18 months while we're renovating the house. I'm currently pregnant, so it's clearly possible!

Or use that great sex aid for parents: Vaseline.

On the door knobs

bit of fun!

I actually have a pot of vaseline right here! Use it as a lip balm.

Well, we just got on with it, though it was a little disconcerting the day then-9-mo DD1 stood up in the cot and started rocking back and forwards in the same rhythm.......

However, on a more practical note, DH developed a habit of sneaking into my shower, which was rather nice (he still does it sometimes even though the DDs are all in their own rooms). And we have shagged in front of the fire in the livingroom, which was romantic (till afterwards, when we both became aware of the draught howling under the door - we've got a draught excluder now).

In the early days? we just got on with it. If he woke up I'd often attempt to rock the moses basket with my toe.

At 6 or 7 months he went into his own room, better for all concerned.