Coping with rejection-any tips?

[poshsinglemum]

I'm a bit down at the moment so the feeling of rejection is hitting me hard.

I feel rejected my dd's dad. When I was pregnant he said ''Youv'e had a lot of boyfriends psm. I'm just the one who's unlucky enough to have your baby.''
Oh great so my genetic material isn't good enough is it?

I feel rejected by my crush (long story)

And being a single mum I feel rejected by society in general.

I also feel rejected by my mum who I have atoxic relationship with. Oh well.

TBH I feel that men hate me and I feel unlovable.

How can I shake this feeling and bounce back stronger in the future?

i stopped worrying what other people think a long time ago!!

i'm old though! think that comes with age

I don't really care what people think about me per say. Ie the general public but it hurts to be rejected by those who are close to me.

Keep going with your therapy, I'd say. You don't seem to be getting anything useful from all your threads here, as they are all so similar and people's advice doesn't seem to make any difference.

Have you thought about activities you could do to take you out of yourself, rather than navel-gazing? I do not mean that unkindly: I truly think that this wallowing is doing you no favours.

True- I am wallowing too much.

What did Eleanor Roosevelt say? nobody can look down on you if you don't give them permission. something along those lines.

You must be having a rough week! usually you sound more content and more sure of yourself I think. I had a really low week in January. So I hope this glum phase passes. I can't be bothered man-hunting. I'm sure it would set me up for disappointment. Do you work?

Hi- I am looking for jobs but have been REJECTEd from one of those too! I think that I just need to get tough and let it run off me like water off a ducks back.

My usual mantra is ''it's not me-it's them!''

Now I am not so sure. I'm like- ''mabe it is me!''

"No-one can make you feel inferior without your consent"

Eleanor Roosevelt

Look here...she was a very wise woman

That's it yes! I certainly live my life by that code. If anybody looks down on me, well frankly my dear, they must be a bit odd!

I see she also said that 'a woman is like a tea bag. you can't tell how strong she is until she is in hot water'.

well psm, this is our hot water. our temporary rough patch. we are single mothers of young children! but this is as bad as it's going to be, and the worst is already behind us right?!

it's going to get better, not worse.

ps, and YOU are six years younger than I am

ps3, I'm like a crazy person with all my multiple posts now, but you can not take it personally that you weren't hired. there's a huge recession! my friend was telling me the other day that she had to fill an administrative role and she got 300 applications for it. Now I don't want to depress you further but you just CAN'T take the recession personally!

I don't. I'm telling you this and I'm unemployed. I would take a part time job if there were any!

PSM- I too have a toxic mother, crap relationship with my DD's dad and a job that I deal with rejection on literally a daily basis!

The solution? well I haven't found anything iron cast, but I just keep on bouncing back so many times it has gotten easier.

I choose not to care what DD's dad says or thinks anymore. I literally don't care and it's wonderful. Took me a good 4 years to learn that though.

I keep a distance from mother 'dearest' emotionally and physically. I also choose to expect nothing at all from her and have definitely put her in the 'mad and crap people in my life' category.

It's taken a lot of self repetition and the release of normal expectations of these people in my life to get to this. Practical things are- if you feel yourself wallowing, stop it immediately. Go and read a book, call a friend, go for a run, watch a film. Stop thinking so much.

I too and a single mum and think society is pretty skewed anyway in regards to the 2.4 kids, marriage and 1950s nuclear family model. I know so many people who have not been made happy by it. So if someone judges me for being a single mum ( and there are plenty sadly) I just think to myself: careful what you judge because it might well be you one day.

Just wanted you to know you are definitely not alone!