Seeing solicitor on Wed. What do I need to ask?

[mumof4sons]

My story so far: H left me three weeks ago for OW. H had 8 month affair. Says he loves her.
I am hurt, angry, sad - basically every emotion you could have. I am trying to keep it together for my 4 DSs.

I have an appointment with solicitor on 10/3. What do I need to ask?

Your help would be greatly appreciated.

I think you need to ask the solicitor for general advice. Not to trivialise, but in a legal sense, your situation seems relatively "straightforward" and he/she should give you a lot of standard advice.

I haven't been to a solicitor, but my H has announced that he doesn't love me and that he is thinking of leaving (I have no idea why, he denies having OW).

I have been advised by family to stay put in the marital home and to be civil to H.

Sorry for your situation I sympathise.

You need to know in advance:

1. house -- joint tenancy or tenants in common. Or rented, in which case, whose name is on the tenancy agreement?

1. income - his. yours

1. liabilities - (debts).

1. any issues in regards to the children such as contact, residence order etc. Do you want the children to live with you? Who is the primary carer at the moment? What are DH's intentions? Does he live close? How do you feel about him having the children visit at his place, and meeting OW? Never is probably unrealistic, but be prepared for this question.

Ask how much they charge, and if they seem unnaturally keen to push you down the divorce route, choose a different solicitor.

Money; marital property, marital assets, marital debt. Your rights and his, your responsibilities and his.
Custody options, visitation.

Like others have said, all details of assests/debt.
His income, your income.
If you want to petition for divorce take with you your marriage certificate.
If you wish to apply for legal aid you need a form of photo ID and proof of address