How do you afford divorce?

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I would like to know how you cope after a divorce financially.

For most of us, it is hard to keep one household going and the thought of trying to run two seems impossible.

Do you usually have to sell the family home? Does the parent who sees the children less, have to buy a tiny place and then not have proper bedrooms for the children when they come to stay?

If you've been a SAHM, do you have to start working and then take on all the stresses of being a working, lone parent?

I hope some of you may be kind enough to share some of your experiences with me. Thank you.

Pardon?

I am certainly not from the media.

I don't know many people who are divorced and without going into my personal situation at the moment, I am trying to find out about people's own personal experience.

I hope no one else agrees with you hanaflower.

Gosh, we'll be best friends at this rate hanaflower .

I thought I was being too specific with my questions. I do tend to be rather direct and unflowery with my language, perhaps that's what it was.

Anyway, let's see if anyone comes along .......

For most of us, it is hard to keep one household going and the thought of trying to run two seems impossible Yes!! Been there and thought this. When I started considering divorce it meant a big adjustment in attitude and I'd say I prepared the family finances for a year getting them into a healthy state to split - we also had to readjust our expectations of life.

Do you usually have to sell the family home? Does the parent who sees the children less, have to buy a tiny place and then not have proper bedrooms for the children when they come to stay? My XH has a very small place and barely room for the children. I didn't sell but would have. He wanted the kids to grow up in the family home and I thank him for that. I have taken over the mortgage but he hasn't taken his equity yet

If you've been a SAHM, do you have to start working and then take on all the stresses of being a working, lone parent? I work fulltime -if only I'd been able to increase and earn more !

Thank you Petitioner, I appreciate your post.

"We also had to readjust our expectations of life." - I think you have hit the nail on the head there, Petitioner. I bet that is the crux of it all.

Sorry if this rakes up any bad feelings but anyone else out there up to sharing?