Have you ever truly believed you'd never meet anyone?

[littlestmummystop]

I do now.

I've been on 21 dates since I split with awful exP last year and I'm still single. I've resigned myself to fact that I'll only be able to meet someone on internet and these were mainly internet dates.

Most of the men I meet are in their mid 30s but seem very immature for their age. Three told me they weren't interested in me because I had a child.

How many people really BELIEVED they wouldn't ever meet anyone and then did? I need some inspiration.

I've definitely arrived at the place of : 'I won't ever meet anyone ' despairsville. I am here now

I need some uplifting stories..

I'm impressed you've managed 21 dates in a year! I've never had that many in my entire life.

I doubt I'll meet anyone else, 2 pre-schoolers and work take up all my time. No one to go out with to pubs / bars, and frankly I'd rather be at the gym anyway. I managed 6 years between dates even before I had dc's so there's no hope for me. Still get my legs waxed though, I live in hope .

Honestly? Yes, completely felt I'd never meet anyone. I went for about 5 years without a serious boyfriend and every bloke I met just wasn't right for me (either a complete tosser or I just didn't fancy them). I tried 3 internet dating sites and although had plenty of dates, and I did have fun getting out and about, it got to me in the end ie not meeting someone I'd like a serious relationship with.

The funny thing is though, when I was at my lowest, and had decided that the I would meet up with one final bloke from an internet dating site, it turned out that he is the man I'm marrying in October and who i now have a DD with (by the way I was his first date from a site so it can happen the other way too!)

Think I'm saying is you can't predict life. Yes you can have incredible lows when nothing is going right, but sometimes, just sometimes something incredible happens. You just got to have hope.

It is highly unlikely you will not be single for the rest of your life. Try and enjoy the now. Difficult I know. But life really can and does change in an instant - and definitely when you're least expecting it to.

Oh blimey sleep deprivation from a 5 month old - meant to say It is highly unlikely you will be single for the rest of your life.

Oh dear - that nearly ruined the whole sentiment of my post!!!!

It's great reading this thread as I am newly single from a 16 year marriage. I take heart from the idea of enjoying life as it is now and that it can change in an instant. I have 2 fabulous children and about to start a degree course in September. Would love to meet a nice guy at some point, but feel it is about time a left some things to chance.

Sorry, I left some things to chance, all the best littlestmummy.

"I go go the gym but really would you be attracted to the fat sweaty girl"

If you only go to the gym to meet people you're on a hiding to nothing. Try looking at going to the gym as a means to get fit and healthy. You will gain confidence from that and THAT, more than anything will gain the attention of the guys.

Being overweight itself won't stop you from meeting someone and falling in love - a dear friend of my h2b's is exceedingly overweight and she just met someone and they got engaged after only 4 months.

I used to be overweight and I never had any shortage of admirers.

However, if being overweight is causing you to have low confidence and self-esteem, then that will put potential admirers off.

Since losing weight I have felt so much better and happier and sexier, and also more comfortable and confident in bed too.

Ooh that came out the wrong way. I mean I go to the gym for fitness not to meet anyone. Plus when I go it's all Mums and the senior citizens anyway .

I know it's all about confidence and slowly I am geting mine back but I do miss being with someone that I will admit. I never thought I would spend most of my 'youth' single and alone. I do feel like I have missed out on a lot but one day it will happen.

of course you'll meet someone, pretty much the second you stop feeling the need to meet anyone.

i was single for about 4 yrs on my own in a v small norfolk village with dd and the cat. had self estem issues so a few truly horrible brief relationships. thought to myself, that's it, booked counselling and OU course. really didn't want to know anymore.

met dh about a week later.

love him, but miss the old days.

enjoy your time girls, it's not all chats and laughs over a nice glass of wine, it's more likely to be ffs i can't beleive you forgot to put the bin out again.

enjoy the moment, it's all we have, and be careful what you wish for.

Yes, I truly believe I'll never meet anyone (well, not anyone of course, but what you mean.) The difference between you & me is I really don't give a stuff about it. I've spent almost all my life tippy-toeing around eggshell egos & testosterone tempers; that's too much already! I know I'm not a bad catch, I don't need some halfwit with a dick to prove it.

I accept that any man I'd want is already married, and aiming to stay that way. If I live that long, maybe I'll meet someone after their wife dies (it happened to my mother, why not me?)
I'm a squillion years older than you, though
Yours'll be along in a minute ... it's true, they turn up when you're not looking! My brother met his wife when they were both out playing with their sons' new radio-controlled Christmas presents. Best brush your hair before you you play in the street, then

when I seperated from my husband I vowed to stay single and celibate for the rest of my life.... and meant it! thought I may thought I would perhaps have one or two friends but my future, I saw just me and the kids....

1 Year later.... a friend wanted me to look on line for a man for her as she had no computer, so I looked at pof, saw a dishy man that I rather fancied and dropped him a line.... that was 6 months ago, and I've now found love that I never knew existed...

I didn't go looking for a man, let alone fall in love and plan a future together...

I do think that I fell for him as I didn't go looking IYKWIM, love just crept up on me...