hi everyone,
please can you help me through my journey into the unknown.
i found out on xmas eve that my partner of 10 years was having and emotional affair and after a major arguement i told him to get out, he went to stay at his brothers, i contacted this other woman via her number on his phone and told her to back off, she said you are not married so its up to us, we love each other -she then stopped contact with him, he called me new year and asked to come back and start again which i accepted, we were fine for a week then he became distant again and said he wanted to find his own place and be the old him he used to be, of course i discovered that the OW was a co worker and once they made contact again that was it, he gave me the cares massivvely speech but we had drifted to far apart and he no longer loved me, that night she confimed they were together and very much in love and he tells her all the time, he later confimed that, i threw him out there and then - he moved back to his brothers, he sees this woman every night but returns to his brothers but stays at her house all weekend, he said he does not want to move in with her he just wants his own place - in the first 2 weeks he had gone we met to go and close down our joint bank account and set up his payments to me for half the mortgage.
he always asks his brother and family if they have seen or spoken to me, and he calls me every couple of days, just to check i am ok and has been round to our house to fix a few things
now 5 weeks since he has gone he has been searching for the new flat and seems to have found one and i am devasted that he has done this i was hoping to hear him say he wants to come home - i had a barrage of calls from hime on friday and we ended up in the local pub but he was so drun and gave me all the i do love you and i will come home etc etc, and yesterday rang and said he was so sorry he didnt love me and was not coming back and said please can we stay friends, i said no and put the phone down, he rang back half hour later and was crying saying we are best friends please dont cut him off, he cant bear not to speak to me everyday, he checks my facebook everyday just to see my picture and thinks of me everyday when he wakes etc etc ? and he couldnt bear it if i wasnt part of his life ??? there has never been any reference to anything sexual since he has been gone, so i dont think its just booty calls - says i am his mucker, best friend
anyone tell me what is going on here