quick question...

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how do you know if your in love...

theres one man in my life who i absolutely adore - cant put it into words i am completly in love with him but i cant be with him....but maybe in the future, i think of him all the time,i care so much for him i would marry him 2moro..

then theres my ex who wants me back, and i love him hes the father of my kids and we have 10 years history. He treated me bad but i have all the memories... and i want to be a family... i dont want to hurt my kids

what do i do.. i sound niave i know but i feel like i could be happy with ex, just not amazingly in love cant keep ure hands off him happy do anything for him happy! But happy in a sense of being a afamily.

but then theres the unknown.. i really dnt know wht To do,

if i could choose one person to kiss rite now it would be the first man.

i dnt know if im just in lust

god my head is wrecked

Do nothing!

A relationship with man #1 isn't attainable for whatever reason so that's a non starter.

Man #2 treated you badly. Why go back for more of the same?

Option #3, 'the unknown', that's the way to go! There's a whole world out there full of people don't get into anything with anyone just for the sake of being in a relationship.

why can't you be with man one?
Is he married?

Definitely don't go back to the ex, for 2 reasons.

Firstly because he treated you badly and will probably continue to do so. Leopards don't change their spots and all that

Secondly, how can you really be happy with him when you are thinking about somebody else. It will always be second best.

Do nothing. Wait for the right person to come along, somebody who you really do love and who is free. Don't know why you can't be with man 1 now but maybe if he did become free it would be him but don't wait for him. Get out there and keep looking.

It hurts to be alone when you're not used to it. Being with the wrong person is worse, though, in the longer term, honestly. Don't have somebody back just because you were together for a long time.

It might help to list (for yourself, you don't have to share it here) all the reasons why ex is ex. If he treated you badly as a once-off, for short-term reasons (like an affair he now deeply regrets, or a mental condition that is being treated) there could be a way back, if you both want it and work on it hard enough. But if it's just who he is, as Niecie says, leopards don't change their spots. All the sweet words he uses to win you back, and good memories in between the bad, won't change an arse into a decent partner and father.