Responsible, usually, and about to have a one-off sexual encounter

[katiegirlya]

Is it wrong???
I am about to meet a guy for a drink and though I have arranged multiple get out clauses I suspect it will lead to sex.
DD is not here, obv.
I want it. It's worng, though, surely, just scrathching and overwhelmingly pwerful itch???

If you need to ask the permission of a bunch of strangers, then you're not comfortable, are you? Do what YOU think is right. Unless you plan on publishing it all in a short column for the Times, Aunty Mabel will never know.

Unless you actually know this man, inviting him back to your house seems , at best, irresponsible and at worst, dangerous tbh.

If you are both single, consenting adults and you are honest with each other, I find it difficult to see anything wrong. However, as BitOfFun says, the fact that you are asking suggests you aren't comfortable. I think you need to figure out why you are uncomfortable before you do something you may regret. Of course, you may regret it anyway if he turns out to be rubbish in bed...

if he produces nipple clamps from outta his pocket, run like the wind.....

................but it's ok if they're under his shirt, AnyF?

What makes you think it might be wrong? If it's the lingering myth that women who have sex when they have not extracted a commitment from the man are 'sluts' bin it now. Sex between consenting adults is fine.

However, if this is a guy you 'met' via internet dating or something, please take the usual basic precautions of meeting him in a public place, telling someone where you are going etc, and if you are uneasy when you are having the drink with him, make your excuses and leave. WRT inviting him back to your house for a shag, it's a judgement call only you can make. He's almost certainly an OK human being and not a rapist/stalker/murderer, but if you don't trust your own judgement, it;s perhaps best not to invite him home after the first date.

okay

I think it is wrong but that is me with my morals and I am not you.

I would worry about safety. But it is your call. If you are having to ask us you are not 100% sure.

So did you???

Well. He came here. He was not AT ALL physically attractive. I asked him to leave and he did.

I still want it though....

How did you not know that he was unattractive>

Katiegirlya: though it's fair to say that the majority of people you meet through online dating are not dangerous loonies, it's not really very sensible to invite them to your house for the first meeting. Basic internet-dating rules are: have the first meeting in a public place, tell someone where you are going and don't go somewhere private with someone you don't feel comfortable with. If you meet in public and really hit it off and feel safe then it's fair enough to take them home/go home with them - it's your own judgement call, same as picking someone up in a pub or club or whatever. But when you meet someone IRL and fancy them, you have usually spent some time interacting with them, you know whether you are attracted to each other or not and in many cases you have some acquaintances in common at least, which is more of a safety net than someone you know nothing about apart from the info they have given you on line. An awful lot of not-dangerous online daters post photos that are either several years old or not of them at all, for instance. I really ,really wouldn't advise inviting online pals to your house without having met them previously.