on my boss at work, and feel like I am about 14.
He is very physically attractive, but also witty, entertaining, and gets on with everyone.
More than all of this is the fact he is absolutely great at his job. I have spent over 10 years with a series of bosses who have been anything from belligerent to ineffectual, and have never worked for anyone who has the same sort of ideas as me as to how to do what we do effectively. I've worked alongside people at the same sort of level as me who agreed with me in the past, but we've always been battling again the ineffectual and belligerent managers mentioned earlier. To actually have someone manage me who agrees with me, shares my work goals, is wonderful.
If he was this good at his job but no oil painting, it would be fine. I would respect him, enjoy being in his team, and no other thoughts would trouble me. If he was all looks and no substance, well he would be something pretty to look at, but no more.
The trouble is he's the whole package. It's not affecting my work really, actually I am probably working harder than ever because I want to impress him, I want him to appreciate my skills, and hard work. However, I do find myself thinking about him an awful lot more than I should. And that any guy I meet in real life is nothing in comparison to him!
There's nothing between us other than some very mild office flirtation. He is married, and though I may be single, I wouldnt go there for that reason (not in any event that he would ever consider me!).
I'm not really sure what I'm asking - that grown women do get crushes like this I guess; and also whether I just have to let it run it's course (and how long this will take) or if it will just fade in time?