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OK to ask DS' Dad for more money?

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CuppaT · 03/03/2010 11:47

Have also posted this on another thread, thought some posters on here might be able to assist also?

My DS' dad pays monthly maintenance through the CSA, possibly not to what his salary is but I wouldn't want to rock the boat by asking them to investigate him so just leave it be.

Anyway my DS has two big trips approaching this year, one with school for nearly £300 and the other with his scout troop again for nearly £300.

Do you think it reasonable that I ask him for a contribution towards said trips or should his monthly payments cover everything? I never ask him for more money towards anything else usually.

Thanks for any advice.

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SayHitIsntSo · 03/03/2010 11:56

Yes you definitely should ask him to pitch in.
Children have differing needs, and sometimes things pop up which requires adjusting.

NicknameTaken · 03/03/2010 12:10

Depends how much his monthly payment is. If you're genuinely finding it difficult to cover the payments, surely there's no harm in asking him (but not necessarily demanding it).

cluckyduck · 03/03/2010 12:23

How much does he pay?

My DD's dad pays £230 a month, towards food, clothing, rent etc; but when she started school in Sept I needed some help paying for her uniform, coat etc, so I asked him and he was happy to help, so I dont think you are being unreasonable, if he doesnt pay you a great deal in maintenance already.

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CuppaT · 03/03/2010 12:24

He pays £166 per month so not a huge amount......

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moomaa · 03/03/2010 12:24

I would second going along the ask and not demand approach. 'Would you like to help pay so he can get these great experiences' etc.

LadyBiscuit · 03/03/2010 12:25

I can't see the harm in asking to split the cost.

cluckyduck · 03/03/2010 12:49

Yes, I would definitely ask him for help in that case.

damnedchilblains · 03/03/2010 13:36

Yes definitely. I agree with what the other posters have said, don't demand but just ask do you mind splitting the trip fair with me so ds can go. I would advise giving him a price for example if the trip is £300 ask for £150. If he can't afford it he can always go down but if you just say can you contribute and he gives you £50 you're not going to be best pleased. Also you would have to ask him for more which could cause things to quickly sour.

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