views on older women/younger men?

[irmacrabbe]

I'm a well-preserved and extemely lively 50 something and have been dating a while since my divorce 3 years ago.

Not seeing anyone currently but am online and getting a lot of interest from younger guys. I've always tended to draw the line at anyone more than say 6-7 years younger. But am talking to one guy 12 years younger who seems really great and think I'd like to meet him.

I'm not looking for marriage or co-habitation, I just want companionship (and that includes sex but I'd require fidelity) and hopefully on a long-term basis. Also wouldn't get involved with men who wanted children (ideally they'll have had them already). What's considered too big a gap? Any of you quite a lot older than DPs/DHs?

13 years older here. Never been a problem (yet)

I say go for it - you'll have some fun and if they are interested why the hell not? they aren't going to be looking at some hot 50 something expecting you to have their babies!

oh and any tips on how to keep oneself so well preserved would be gratefully received!!

That's great Mrs B - how long have you been together? As for tips? Stay out of the sun (I always hated sun-bathing) and don't even think about not colouring your hair if you're grey (I am).

Drink wine, go out dancing and ask DD's advice (if you've got one) about what to wear! Mine has an unerring knack for being able to tell me when I look like mutton.

haha - I have got most of that down - except the DD - haven't got one and I do have a tendance towards mutton. Hate sunbathing though!

We have been together about 7 years - he is 29 and I am 42 and we have an 18 month old DS (who is doing my wrinkles no favours at all ). Never had any problems as I looked young for my age and we have a very similar outlook. That's what is important I reckon.

There may come a time when it all falls apart when I look decrepit but hey ho - we will have had many years of happiness by then and a beautiful child - and there's no guarantees in any relationship.

You'll be fine then! I suppose shared outlook is key and maybe having a child later helps in a way. I was 42 when I had my one and only.

And you're so right about nothing being guaranteed, sounds like you're very happy.