Hurrah hurrah hurrah! I am actually starting to be 'over' my idiot partner

[hobbgoblin]

I am truly, badly, awful at the end of relationships. I am hanger on in the extreme grabbing every crumb thrown my way and delving to the very depths of despair over a love lost.

Right now, I have the option of continuing the facade of a relationship I have had for 2.5 years and I don't want to. I really, really don't want to tolerate the crap anymore. I am so pleased with myself for feeling like this - to have found that little bit of strength of character and my humility again. I am so SO pleased.

I don't expect every day to feel like this but I am very glad that today it is there because it means I've turned an important corner.

I know this is an odd, self congratulatory post but the usual sad and helpless me on mumsnet under 'relationships' is embarrassing and I hate it so am glad to be proud of myself...y'know, publicly.

I know what you mean, it's a fantastic feeling
btw I don't know your other posts

Oh, I am so relieved to hear this

Keep it up, kiddo

Thanks lovelies

I haven't even had to make myself think like this because of rejection. Usually I come around to doing so because there is no going back with the other person but on this occasion (although I understand it is never because he actually loves me properly) I could carry on for another little while if I wanted. I HAVE the option I always crave...the one that means I don't have to face rejection by continuing with a damaging relationship for the sake of not being alone again.

I'm looking at the children and thinking they need to see a healthy set up and we've been having a good time since the weekend without me being massively preoccupied by own sadness and dismay. I have cried, admittedly, at the end of Sunday but we had had a great day together. I'm seeing the rewards of that - that devoting myself fully to them and the house and stuff instead of muddling through all distracted and half hearted.

I've read stories and not rushed them so I can go off and feel sorry for myself.

Oh it's sooo much better. And when I talk to the xdp - DD's dad I feel so much more in control and he is sitting up and taking notice. No games, just serious no messing, no crap taking talk.

And I had a great business proposition this week and made another new mummy friend.

What a lovely thread Thanks!

this is fab! sounds like you are considering yourself to be worthy of better - if you do that you WILL find better in future.

In the meantime focusing on yourself, yuor home and kids is so, so the right thing to do. You will find your own happiness and strenght and will attract a much better class of guy in future (or, at the very least, be abe to see off the losers sharpish)

I bang on about it all the time but it is low self esteem that brigs women into these crappy situations and stops them gettign out of them - if you can address that you will save yourself (and your kids) a lot of grief!