Tell me I'm stupid - I know I am, it IS stupid, it's the lotto ffs! but tell me anyway.

[Bumpety]

Hello there, long time lurker, minimal poster!

Before I start, I'm AWARE how stupid this is, and it's so small in comparison to other's problems, you can just write 'you're stupid' and move on, therefore leaving any real thinking to other more important threads!

Quick background:
OH and I are together five years & have two children - prior to me he was in a relationship that lasted 10 years - no kids involved
At the beginning of our relationship he was on the rebound, they had their 'talks' their 'we need closure' shite, there were snots, lies and tears, this went on for two years (even while I was pregnant) SO, after giving him ultimatums numerous times, when he always picked me but still wouldn't tell her to back off.. I ended up threatening telling her to stop contacting myself - she did! That was a couple years ago now.

Anyway, reason I'm giving that info is because obviously there was some hurt left over from all that and so that's probably why this stupid insignificant thing bothers me, I'm even embarrassed to say it

He has been doing the lotto for 15 years, same numbers since he started, added a new line when he met the ex (her birthday, ages they were at the time etc..) and now has a third line to include me and the dcs

He still does her numbers, there, I said it - that's the stupid thing that bothers me, there's no point in asking would it bother others as I don't think there's anybody as ridiculous, so.. just tell me I'm stupid and to get over it please!

Thanks
Mortified

But how stupid would you feel if he doesn't play them one week because it upsets you and THEY COME UP! I bet they are just numbers to him now anyway

Oh dear, I can see your point, kind of, if I look at it with my pmt brain!

Look, I'm sure like the above poster said, they are now nothing more than numbers to him. I think if you kicked up a stink and persuaded him not to use them anymore and then they came up... oooh dear.. I think that would spell disaster.. surely he would be livid?!

They're just numbers and IF they ever did come up it would be you and he that enjoyed the winnings, not the ex.

I wouldn't like it either, to be honest. He probably doesn't mean anything by it, though, more than likely he never thinks about why he puts those numbers in...

No not stupid. He was not man enough to finally end his last relationship and it hurt you.

I don't know if I would ask him to change his numbers. How about you start doing one for yourself with numbers that you choose.

I think it's more to do with being superstitious.

He's been doing the same numbers for x number of years. If he stops doing them now, what IF they come up! I use numbers which are personal to me. Sometimes, when I'm rushing, I do a Lucky Dip but I have a mad fear that that will be the week MY numbers come up!

It's stupid, illogical and silly but it has nowt to do with clinging on to feelings for another person. It's purely superstition!

Oh, you're not been stupid. But, I doubt that he thinks of her when he writes the numbers any more. He's just being superstitious. Try not to worry about it!

Thanks so much for your replies! I know you're all right and he's just afraid of NOT doing them..

I think if it was another ex who hadn't impacted my life so negatively I wouldn't bat an eyelid, it's just because it's her.

Thanks again, and for being so nice about it - was expecting 'oh get over it you juvenile fool, it's the lotto!!!'

Cheers

Hopefully you'll split the winnings with us because we were nice won't you?!

unfortunately once you use a set of numbers you cant stop using them incase they come up
I dont think it means anything to him

but I can see why it would bother you

'Hopefully you'll split the winnings with us because we were nice won't you?!'

Em.. Not so much, no.

Thanks, I'll just have to hope he wins with them so - THEN he's stop using them

'he'll stop'

Don't like that you can't edit your posts around here! Normally the ability to edit makes me appear smarter than I am and not prone to mistakes like others. I don't like it.

some people are very superstitious about using the same numbers

imagine if you changed them and then you got 6 balls !!

we have had the same no's for years

they are just a number

now get a grip (there...do you feel better now I have told you off ? )

Lottery is just taxation for the daft...

If they can shove a massive pile of casino chips into a hole and they are then automatically sorted into denominations, you think they can't do that with the 'balls'?

Fixing the balls would be pretty easy, but I'm not sure what it would achieve. It certainly can be viewed as a tax on the daft but it's also highly leveraged in as much that a piddling little stake can change your life.

Not silly. My dh's password for computery things was his ex-girlfriend's name when I met him. Not for very long though...

But all procedures and draws are witnessed and signed off on by an independent accountancy body, no, I can't imagine it can be fixed, I'm afraid I'll have to ask you to remove that hard hat groundhog

And thanks again for the other replies, even yours AnyFucker

There just numbers he found to be significant in his life. They don't mean anymore than that.

FFS woman, are you mad?!!! Change the numbers and you know they will come up.

DH and I have been doing the same lines of numbers for years, both lines from before we met, and I know mine has a number relating to my ex's birthday. I have no idea why he does his particular six.

And if you think it is fixed, well that couple with the £56 million last week won it on a lucky dip. Bastards.