if you reach the point where

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you genuinally think you are only staying married because to leave would mean big problems for your children WHAT DO YOU DO?

been married 7 years, have 2 children one of whom has SN. Problems for the past 3 years really. At a low point again where we dont speak unless its to nag at each other, there is no intimacy and its the intimacy thats the main root of the problem. I want it he doesnt!
Im still young, just turned 30, he is 40 and i cannot accept i will be married with no sex and no more babies.

To leave would be difficult. Debt is large and i would have to stay in same area as DS school is specialist and took alot of fighting to get his place.

I dont know what to do. We have had 2 lots of RELATE and each time things seem better for about 6 months then we start to regress again.

Am off out for day now trying to avoid DH so will answer tonight but am just looking for reasons to stay or reasons to go or any other help please.

thanks in advance!

You have one life, only one!! do you want to spend it like this for the rest of it??
Do you really?? Do you actually love him, can you imagine the rest of you life without him?? 2 important questions to ask yourself.

If you can answer that then you already know the answer.

What is the point of staying in a miserable marriage at the age of 30. Life is too short.

I am your age and been married nearly 12 years, when things start to laps in the sex dept, I shout and tell him how I feel and what my needs are. He listens, but I also understand that he is about 9-10 years older than me and that he may not need or want it as much as me.

Its give and take at the end of the day and you have both got to work at it. Children don't help, as much as we love them. If you have got 2 then do you really want another one? How about getting some self esteem back and confidence, take some time out for you if you can and get a break from the kids.