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New relationships- when do you mention you have children?

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justallovertheplace · 01/03/2010 17:14

This may sound very superficial at first so I hope you'll bear with me.
I went out on Saturday, by myself as my friend let me down at the last minute, and decided that as I had a babysitter I would take myself off to the cinema and then maybe for a quick drink. Well, I had a blast, and since I was on my own I had to talk to people, so i had a lot more confidence than I normally do. I met a lovely lovely man and had a fantastic time with him and his friends, but at the end of the night I left without giving him my number. And the silly thing is, it was because I thought once he knew I had children he wouldn't be interested I am kicking and kicking myself many times over. I have 2 dc and am 26 and have had a rough couple of years tbh and this is the first time I have been interested in anyone since exdp left. I so wish I could turn back the clock and just give the guy my number! He was lovely, wanted to take me to dinner, intelligent, gorgeous
So in future, when does it come up that you have got dc? I am feeling cross that maybe I should have mentioned it before I became very aware that I hadn't mentioned it iyswim? If he had taken me to dinner no doubt it would have come up then, but gahhhh. Please be gentle with me, my exdp was a bit of an arse and am only just getting my confidence back

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ninah · 01/03/2010 17:19

I'd say early on, but my dates - all two of them and one was a no show lol, voice of experiene me - have been from online site where you state it upfront or friend of friend where background is known. In your situation I'd say something like great, let's get together - now I really MUST go as I've got to get the babysitter home - this is the reality but it doesn't have to be grim, you can carry it off!

justallovertheplace · 01/03/2010 17:22

Ooo yes ninah I like that and it was true, I did have to get home for the babysitter. His mate was showing me pictures of his baby girl on his phone which would have been the perfect opportunity to say something. I need to work on the confidence a bit and then hope to bump into him again I guess

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ninah · 01/03/2010 17:25

or someone like him
you're catching me up already lol

justallovertheplace · 01/03/2010 17:26

It's sad but I've already roped in a few friends to come out with me on friday in the hope of bumping into him

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BelleDameSansMerci · 01/03/2010 18:51

I'm so dull these days DD is all I talk about anyway so no danger of me not telling someone up front

justallovertheplace · 01/03/2010 19:00

You are all so lovely. I am definately going to go out by myself very soon, it's done absolute wonders for my confidence, I spoke to a lot of very gorgeous people and I think people were actually intrigued as to why I was on my own in the first place. It's not sad, it's empowering

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