Newish Partner

[thesunshinesbrightly]

Been going out with this man for a few week's,known him for a long time, feel good in his company, love being with him etc.. miss him when we are not together but recently i've been thinking maybe i should back off a bit, he is also in fast forward mode but i don't know, feel's a bit weird for me. what do you think? sorry can't give to much info.

No harm in slowing things down - it's a good thing to do actually, gives you some breathing space to see the wood for the trees.

Don't just suddenly back off though, talk to him, say you do want the relationship to go further but you would like to just keep it where it is at the moment and not take it any further for a while.

Thank you for your reply, see that's what i would do, wouldnt talk and back off, not very good at talking about my feelings etc.. have a feeling he may be a bit hurt by it all.

Well, if you just back off without explaining anything he's going to think you are not interested, so I would not advise that.

You don't have to go too in-depth with feelings etc, especially if it is a new relationship, you don't say what stage you are at but for example if you were thinking of moving in together and you didn't feel ready, then it's fine to say that you are happy with the way things are for the moment and you just want to take things one step at a time. It's also fine to take a step backwards in a relationship but you will need to talk carefully about this so that he doesn't think you are losing interest.