What happens when you aren't in love anymore? And it is complicated by you having kids?
We have two and a bit kids together, no 3 is due today. No 3 was an accident and he really pushed me to abort. I couldn't and wouldn't as it is not something I agree with as such, as we have been together 12 years and already as I have said have the two kids. He hasn't really supported this decision. He wants to be at the birth and says he will be good to the baby as none of this is her fault. It is entirely mine as he sees it. He thinks this has been done deliberately. He has called me loathsome and various other things, and recently said that he would not have sex with me again even wearing six condoms as I cannot be trusted. That pretty much suits me fine. I miss physical contact such as hugs etc, but I do not want sex with him as I do not fancy him nor even love him anymore.
He is what I would class as an ostrich. He hides his head and won't talk about problems. But the way I see it is without a sex life and trust and respect, we have nothing left as a relationship. We have the kids and that is all that is keeping us together and all that we now have in common. My sister in law thinks I should get out for the kids sake, they seem oblivious to it all right now but how long can that last? He has been depressed I think for sometime now as he had an accident at work and has been at home for a considerable amount of time. Again his inner ostrich comes out and he will not talk about it or do anything to help himself.
I am trying to keep the family together. I spend all my time trying to keep the kids happy which they are, the bills paid, the house clean etc and he just sits on the games console, goes out with his mates on his bike or walks his dog. It is crap to be honest, and although it is an existence it is far from being a happy one. The kids keep me going as I am doing it all for them, but deep in my heart I know if it weren't for them, I would already have left.
Where do we go from here though?