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Newbie-lack of sex drive due to lack of romance/effort whilst ttc

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Dinkytinky · 01/03/2010 14:57

Hi ladies, This is my very first time as a mumsnetter so apologies if I make any mistakes etc, I really do hope you can give me some advice.

Well! I've been with my fiancé 5 years and over the past 9 months my sex drive is practically non existent. I mc'd in April last year and decided to go back on the pill as I couldn't take any more disappointment so soon. At first I thought the lack of sex drive may be down to my contrceptive pill(microgynon) and have been off it for 6weeks. But still no sex drive.

Recently I've started to feel like he expects sex but doesn't actually make any effort for it.were still having sex once a week but I'm just trying to keep him happy tbh. He doesn't do much around the house,he always makes grand plans to spring clean and gets convieniently busy so I'm left with it,I can't bare dirty plates being sat around! But anyway,he doesn't even snuggle up to watch tv with me as he's always busy busy working.I don't want huge gestures but I feel that I need closeness and thoughtfulness to be in the mood! Even on valentines day he just grabbed a box of chocolates I don't like from sainsburys rather than make the 2milejourney to our favourite choccy shop like I did.

Don't get me wrong, he's a great person kind loyal Gorgeous funny and we talk all the time of beginning to ttc again-although obvs it's a bit impossible without the whole sex part!
Thanks ladies xxxx

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Ladyscratt · 01/03/2010 15:11

Hmmm! think its him you need to be talking to not us, particularly if you have a good relationship and if you are not happy with him not pulling his weight then say something.

Dinkytinky · 01/03/2010 15:17

Don't worry I will!he doesn't take it very well usually-takes it reeeally personally-gets upset etc.any ideas for a subtle shove in the right direction? X

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