Hi, I posted last week saying that I thought my marriage was basically over but should I stay for the kids. After asking H to leave he finally pulled his head out of his a**e and woke up to himself. I know we are a long way from being right again but we have looked again at our priorities, our lifestyle and promised to make some changes, him more than me, but I too have been a miserable so and so and have made no effort at all over recent months. He has promised to sort himself out too and I do believe him. Yesterday we got the children looked after overnight so went out for the day and evening and had a lovely lie in this morning. Lots of talking and lots of kissing! Even though we still used to have sex we had stopped kissing properly a long time ago, and what a rediscovery! It really helped.
I just wanted to post this because I had so many helpful replies last week and everything seemed so bleak, but I also wanted to post this for those of you that may be in similar positions it's not impossible to turn it round. I know we're not out of the woods but I feel like we have rekindled the love, and the lovely man I married is starting to resurface. We have ordered the book about saving your relationship from Amazon that someone posted about, so thank you for that tip.
I hope this post doesn't appear insensitive to everyone struggling, we are still a long way from sorted I know, but I just think it is also important to put across some positive messages when good things happen also. The most valuable lesson I learned from posting here earlier is that it isn't healthy to stay in a bad relationship for the kids as you are just setting them a bad example, and I hadn't thought that one through. So, hopefully we can work this through, I do think we owe it to our children and I do still love him, and believe in my marriage vows. But, I also know, if it doesn't work, I would be doing the right thing by asking him to go.
Thanks for your help and support x