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Wound up by woman

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changequick1 · 28/02/2010 07:12

I have been friends with a man for about a year and a half. We have had a couple of hiccups which we've worked through and at the moment we meet up every day and go out on a friday night. My issue is this other woman who flits in and out, comes in and offers to do all kinds of things and then disappears off again. It winds me up because i'm always there and yet he seems to jump through hoops for her, taking me a bit for granted. Don't know what to do.

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nancydrewrocks · 28/02/2010 07:52

Hmm don't understand - are you having a relationship with this man? Is he in a relationship with the other woman? What are these hiccups that you talk about - need waaaaaaaaaaaaaay more information.

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 28/02/2010 08:30

em... your only friends, what on earth is the issue if another woman is his friend

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changequick1 · 28/02/2010 11:09

We are friends. But this woman has in the past told me that he's interested in her but she's not sure. But he and I spend far more time together, then she'll waltz in and start making comments about the two of us, promise to do lots of things with him, then disappear again. I don't have an issue with him being friends with anyone. It's when they try to come between us. One of our hiccups was caused by this woman talking to him about me behind my back, and he then stopped talking to me.

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AnyFucker · 28/02/2010 13:51

are all 12 years old ?

Lulumaam · 28/02/2010 13:54

if you are friends, and only friends, you don't hvae any right to be wound up by what he does for other friends

if he stops talking to you because of what she says, why on earth would you still be friends with him? he sounds very immature

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion · 28/02/2010 13:56

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AnyFucker · 28/02/2010 13:57

*you

BelleDameSansMerci · 28/02/2010 14:05

What a strange post... Op are you more than friends but not yet lovers? Are you interested in having a sexual relationship with this man? If not, can't see that the other woman is anything to do with you. And, it does sound as if he's carrying a torch for her given that he "jumps through hoops" for her.

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changequick1 · 28/02/2010 22:11

I don't know. The whole situation is complicated. I know I shouldn't get wound up by her, but I do. Probably too attached. Probably not healthy. Probably need to have an honest talk with myself and maybe with him. No, i'm not 12, but sometimes I wonder. . .

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heQet · 28/02/2010 22:14

You're friends and yet you are talking like you are in a romantic relationship. Do you want to be in a romantic relationship? Do you feel like you would be in a romantic relationship if this woman didn't appeal to him?

Don't be so possessive of him - he can have more than one friend. Move away a bit.

MorrisZapp · 28/02/2010 22:17

My DP wants your thread title for a t-shirt slogan.

SolidGoldBrass · 01/03/2010 09:36

This is daft. He doesn';t owe you any kind of exclusivity, he is not your partner and can see and spend time with anyone he likes.
If you want him to be your partner then you are going to have to ask him for a date or something - but it's very likely that he doesn;'t thik of you in a romantic/sexual way at all (which he is under no obligation to do whatever your feelings).

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changequick1 · 02/03/2010 20:15

Rofl morris. No I agree but he pushed for us to get together every day etc. I do agree with a lot of what you've said.

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